i have posted before about my having feelings for my dr. other than the pt. dr. relationship. i have been told so many things mainly to forget this. since both he and i are both married. to stop seeing him. right now i am having complications from a surgery so have no choice but to see him. i am finding that the feelings i am having keep getting stronger and i think about him all the time. my marriage seems like it is at a standstill. we are fighting more now than ever, over stupid stuff. we have been married 18 years with four kids. Every time i am with my husband sexually i think of my dr. and what it would be like with him. my good friend told me to pray, that it works miracles. well i need one now. my dr. has said and done things that make me feel that he has some feelings for me but because of his profession he cant act on them. if anyone wants to take time and read my previous post and help me please please do. they are under "falling in love with doctor" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
thank you

It would definetely be wise for you to switch doctors ASAP, but if this is not a practical alternative at this time, then consider taking a girlfriend or relative with you to your appointments. The less you are alone with this man, the less the opportunity there is for you and him to start an A.

Get into counseling with an MB oriented counseling professional like the Harley's or Penny Tuppy from Save Your Marriage Central , even if your H refuses to acompany you.

Good luck and keep us posted.

I would also suggest finding another doctor. Just remember that you are a grown woman and have full control over your actions and feelings. You are not a slave to your feelings and don't have to act on them. You aren't a hormonal teenager and are fully responsible for your actions, up to and including protecting your marriage. Nor will seeing your doctor help your marriage in the least.

Okay Confused: He is a man that is showing you a little tenderness. That is all it takes when you r in need. Hell, I had a crush on my physical therapist while my WS was having his affair and afterward too. He would rub and massage my body and flirt a little.lol Nice bedside manner.lol But I knew I was just this lonely woman thinking I could use this guy to get back at my WS or I could use my head and not get caught up in a mess. I used my head, and I dreamed about that luscious man. But I never touched him. If u find it impossible to control yourself. Please remember what a mess an affair creates and change doctors. Good Luck. wu

it seems everyone seems like changing dr.s is the best way to go. But my feelings are making me feel like i am up in some cloud somewhere and cant see things clearly. i want so badly to tell my dr. how i feel. my marriage it seems to be crumbling before my eyes. my husband wont go to counseling and tells me it is all my fault. i look forward to my dr. visits. someone PLEASE help me. does anyone know the reprocutions of a pt. dr. relationship? Am i just seeing things the way i want them to be or could it be my dr. feels the same way about me but cant say anything. my fear is if i say something that it will just be some joke to him and have him tell me to find another dr. God help me!!

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confused, you know you should find another doctor and it would be wrong to pursue this illicit relationship. Quit letting your feelings run you and get a grip on yourself. You say your marriage is in trouble. Having an affair with your doctor can't possibly help the situation. I would suggest getting into counseling ASAP.