Looking for some suggestions on this situation.

In recovery since Dec. Don't like the fact that OM still has physical objects related to A. Souvenir from Disneyworld. A few pictures. Since this is something that can be changed, is it something you would change?

I'd rather that the OM did not have mementos of the A. A number of reasons for this - not sure if I need to go into specifics since a lot of reasons are probably obvious - but can be discussed.

I'll grant that this is something of a selfish desire of mine, but could serve to provide a status of where my marriage is in terms of actual recovery. I'm sort of resolved (well, as much resolution as I can get after 30 seconds of having this pop into my head) to get POJA on this and then proceed.

Future contact is certainly a possibility (workplace A), so this could certainly serve as a "closure" type signal to OM - though I'm not sure if this is needed. I may be just wanting to rub his nose in it a little bit.

Risk of backfire seems minimal.

For some reason I can not figuer this out..maybe its been a long day, Maybe the second G&T <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ..but, regardless, it sounds to me that sombody has not sent the other person a drop dead its over letter!

That letter should also request throwing out, getting rid of, etc. any left overs from the affair!