My full story here

Brief description:
~ Me - BS (39Y)
~ Her - WW (35Y)
~ Married 14Y
~ D - 11Y
~ OM (31)
~ "I love you but not in love" - Nov.08, 2002
~ W moves out into an apartment - Feb.01, 2003
~ Denial and lies until D day March 09, 2003
~ Been Plan A since found MB - Dec. 14, 2002
~ Been told by a mutual friend that she "sees the changes in me" two days ago (March 29, 2003).

Constant contact with OM since WW moved out. They work on the same floor.
Cake eating and very comfortable with the situation. "If I could only keep you both..." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Really, really want to move to plan B as the situation is very distructive for all involved except WW.

Need some guidance as:
Do I continue plan A or there is no reason to do so anymore. I could go the extra mile for another month, but it's unbearable. Wouldn't give it a second thought to go to plan B if knew that OM started LB-ing.
The fog is very, very thick. "This is not an affair. I am just seeing somebody."

WW has a pattern of avoiding contact for a couple of days, then shows up at the door for no reason. Stays for an hour and leaves.

Another question is about the OM? I guess they don't post here very often, but how does he feel in all this? Anyone knows? Isn't this tiering for him? Is the guilt eating him alive? Or all this comes later? Or never comes?

Any comments would be very appreciated.

You should do a very good Plan A for at least a few more months before you go to Plan B.

the situation is very distructive for all involved except WW.
How is it destructive for you & kids?
How is it destructive for om?

Another question is about the OM? I guess they don't post here very often, but how does he feel in all this?
He doesn’t think much about you. Perhaps that you are a terrible person based on what your wife has told him. But he only know what she has told him.

Isn't this tiering for him?
It may get that way eventually.

Is the guilt eating him alive? Or all this comes later? Or never comes?
He may think there is nothing to feel guilty about.

<small>[ April 02, 2003, 09:07 AM: Message edited by: Chris (CA123) ]</small>