Thought my MB friends would get a kick out of this one!

Sunday afternoon my son was visiting his Dad and OW. While he was there they decided to watch the movie "One Hour Photo" with Robin Williams. I don't know too much about the movie other than Robin becomes obsessed w/ a family and the husband of this family has an affair. Robin decides to do something to the husband to hurt him because of what he did. Watching the movie was OW, my H, OW's son, my son. After the scene where Robin does whatever he did to the husband, OWs son (who is 11) says "Mommy, Why did he hurt that guy? What did he do that made him so mad?" Julie looked at her son and said "Well, tommy, he had an affair and that is just not right" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> !!!!!

TALK ABOUT PSYCHO FOG BABBLE!!! If it wasn't so funny, it would be sad. Well, thought you would get a kick out of this little story. Take care everyone!
BH

Come, come now, brokenhearted, you obviously don't understand. Their case was special. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

WAT

their case was true love and all the fantasy that goes with it

Did your son relay this story to you? In person or over the phone? How old is your son? What else did your son say about this idiotic remark Julie made? Did your son ever have a talk with his dad about adultery/affairs/marriage/vows???

bwahahahahahaha! Simply brilliant! I'm guessing she had no idea what she was saying.

Hi Pepper - My son relayed this story to me last night in person. He talked to his Dad about the affair when it all came out in Oct/Nov 2001. Since then the only thing they have discussed is the fact that my son won't talk to Julie. Since my husband left, they have only had those two serious discussions. Vincent and I have talked many times about the issues you mentioned and he definitely understands what his father and Julie did was morally and ethically wrong. He is 17 years old and is great young man. He has been such a source of comfort to me through all of this. He can not forgive Julie for the part she has played in destroying our family, but has been able to forgive Ralph and myself. The other things he said to me about the idiocy of the statement was that it took a lot of effort not to laugh, he thought he was going to fall off his chair, he wondered if Julie realized how stupid she sounded and that she was such an idiot. My daughter (who was there when my son told me this story but was not there during the movie) said that Julie is always saying things like "cheating is so awful and how can a girlfriend cheat on a boyfriend" (Charlene has never shared this with me before because she thought it would upset me). Stupid idotic statements that make her look like such a hypocrite. I am glad that my kids can see through the ridiculousness of her words. I think I answered everything, but if I forgot anything, or if something doesn't make sense, just let me know and I will try to clarify.

WAT and Nikko - Yup...they do think they are special! I remember when Julie told me their affair had nothing to do with me, they both loved me so much....Funny way to show their love, I wish they had just sent me a Hallmark!!

BH

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by brokenhearted:
<strong>Funny way to show their love, I wish they had just sent me a Hallmark!!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">OMG, that made me laugh!!!

Just shows ta go ya, they (WSs) have painted over all the mirrors in their lives. They have lost the ability to be self checking or self critical, hence their overflowing hypocrisy. They have lost the normally present "oops response." This is an "official" behavioral charateristic of normal (not deluded) people that normally corrects for such absurd statements and behavior before they take place. I heard it straight from a brain science researcher. It's EXACTLY the same thing present in drug addicts and adolescents who have had too much alcohol.

Whenever unreformed WSs display these characteristics, we (BSs) can take comfort that they are STILL totally fogged in, screwed up, deluded, or whatever other words you want to use to describe self absorbed, irrational behavior.

Take it to the bank.

WAT

can you imagine what hallmark would come up with for that.....

LOL! I bet all of us here could come up with some great messages for a Hallmark Card!

Lets see....

Even though we are best friends,
and our friendship has been grand
Something has happened and
has gotten out of hand.

Even though I love you
and your children are the best,
I love your husband more than you
and you can figure out the rest!

OR

Roses are red,
violets are blue
Ralph and I are in love
but it has nothing to do with you!

I'm not much of a poet, as you can tell!! LOL

BH

BH,,
You crack me up!!! Iread this yesterday and smiled a number of times today as I thought about the FOG!!!

Got to love those kids they have so much figured out!!!

You just have to shake your head!!!!

Have a great day!!! You have come so far and are now so strong!!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

ROTFLMAO!!! BH, you ARE a poet!!!

I say submit it...if Hallmark doesn't go for it, maybe there's a "Far Side" line of cards that would! Maybe we could create our own line of cards called "Reality Bites"

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You really are awesome, BH, to find the humour in all this. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!

Thanks Dawn and H4F! It has taken a long time to get to the point where I can find some humor in this situation! Some days are harder than others, but then Miss Julie is such a whacko, that when she does/says something like this, you just have to laugh!!! Anyway, thanks and I'm glad I could help you to get a laugh or two..we call can use a little laughter to get us through!
BH

OMGosh!!!! I too saw One Hour Photo, and although it was a bit intense near the end, I was sooo mad at those people.... the ones having the A... and although Robin W. was a bit extreme, I do think they deserved to get something... although we all know who will take care of that!!

Anyway, I am sorry your kids are around such a flake. I feel sorry for Js son.... how sad? Was she single , I apologize, in all my trauma, I do not remember what happened to her H....

I am so sorry they are still deluded, but it shows that people can convince themselves the world is really flat.

My wh goes in and out of fog still, though there is no ow I know of at the present... we are still in counseling, but the delusion continues.... Do they ever accept reality again? I do not know.

Anyway, so your son visits and does not speak to J? I would applaud that statement... he sits in the same room with her and doesn't speak to her? Good for him! if he does that.

I am glad your kids see the truth and that you are doing better.

Hugs, Honey

Hi Honey...I haven't seen the movie myself, but I might rent it this weekend to see what actually happens. To answer your question about J's husband, they separated about 6 months before we did. He had no idea about the affair until last August or so (which was approx 10 months after our separation). When he found out he threatened to "kill Ralph, Julie, and anyone else who got in the way". He then moved to Florida to get away from the situation so he could calm down and get his head on straight. He was away for a few months, but is back now. As far as my son is concerned, he only speaks to Julie when she asks him a direct question and then he only answers with "uh-huh" or "nope" or someother one word type answer. My husband has talked to him and tried to persuade him to talk to her but Vincent refuses (Go Vin!!) when he is ready to then I will be OK with it, but he has to be ready and my husband is just going to have to be patient. I'm so happy for you that your husband has agreed to counseling! That is a big step and I hope it works out for you. You have a long road ahead, but you are a strong woman and whatever happens, you are going to get through it!

Jazzey - Thanks! I love the Reality Bites concept too! who knows...maybe this could be the start of something big!!

BH

BH-

I'll have to say, sounds like WH and OW will be a source of some dark humor for a long time to come <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I'm glad to see you are doing well and can actually laugh at some of this stuff, shows how strong you are and what an inspiration you are to us. Someday I hope to be at the point where you are now.

Take care.

Hi LHS, Unfortunately I think you are right! I have found the only way I can get through this is to laugh at the outrageous comments and actions they BOTH say/do. My oldest daughter who is still iving with them had a huge argument w/ OW two weeks ago (yelling and screaming and throwing things)which ended up with D leaving the house for a about a week. The only funny thing about this situation was that my H was attending an ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS (due to a domestic dispute between OW and H) at the time of the fight!! Ironic to say the least! Yup, they make it easy. Their fog is like pea soup and I don't see it clearing any time soon, if ever.

How are things going with you? I hope you are doing well. Please post an update either here or on a new thread. I think about you so often since our situations are so similar! Take care LHS!
BH