I actually wrote a letter and then ended up with the opportunity to discuss the issues on Friday night after he came home from work. He will not give up his "friendship" and says she is not the problem with our marriage all the other issues he rakes up from the past are. I have admitted fault where it belongs and also acknowledged I can not change the past, but I can change from this moment forward, and I have been the last 6 months. His response is, it took a long time to get where we are and just apologies are not going to make everything right, it will take time, and I may not like the results, but he just can not say right now.
I just need to give him space..ya D ya D ya..
He then advises he doesn't want to go to our normal Friday night place we go for dinner and he is going to Arbys.
He left and what should have taken 10 minutes took 2 hours and 15 minutes! Obviously, I was not waiting up for him and he slept up stairs, as he did the next night. However, last night he was back in my bed???
I have a further problem to complicate the matters, he is an Alcaholic, and the last 8 months it has gotten really bad, and He is so angry all the time.....anyone have any advice here? I have been attending Al-Anon for the last month, and I plan to continue going... but this A really complicates matters...
So do I give it 6 months and see what happens?
I have been reading 'Divorce Busting, marriage saving techniques, by Michele Weiner-Davis. I am using the Last Resort technique. That is stop pursuing him, and act like I am getting on with my lift. I still tell him I love him, but I am not acting like I was....
One day so far...so hopefully this will get his attention.
Any advice?
Thanks/Bonita92
