My FWH and I have been in a very good recovery for 17 months and everything is going great. My FWH has always been a very friendly, open kind of person, but since his A this has really bothered me. It doesn't matter were we go he seems to talk to everyone, which is not a bad thing, but sometimes it seems like flirting to me. I don't think he even knows he is doing it, this is how he has always been. How do I let him know how I feel without making him feel like he has done something awful? I don't want to over react because he really isn't doing anything wrong this is how he has always been, it just makes me feel insecure now. Am I being to sensitive? I know that he loves me and he is sorry for the pain he caused me. He has been wonderful with me in helping me get over his A. When we are not together he tells me were he will be, who he is with ect. The lies and secrets are a thing of the past, he has gone that extra mile to make sure that I feel safe in trusting him again. So how do I handle this without hurting him? We have both been hurt enough.

Ellyn,

I am facing similar issues. Mr L. is a bit of a social butterfly.... everyone likes him. At home he is just plain ol grumpy. Very much in line with his family's personality (most of them are like this).

I let him know straight up. Remember being honest is important. Now what issues that bug him about you is he notifying you of? If so, how does he do it?

If you don't know how to approach him, ask him how he would like to be notified about something that is making you feel 'unsafe'? Then work from there. That is what I did. Left less to babble back about.

JMHO,
L.