No one yell (type)at me, I have a question-my original post under name(stacyseman)I changed my password, see "unbelievable story" under general questions-see my "story"first then answer my question-anyway, should I send a letter to OMM,
saying what right now I don't know-I have had nc
in almost a year-by all indications he has moved
on with his life & W (as we speak they are in Hawaii this week)-any thing I say in the letter would be contact and make me look pathetic, he (with the big ego)would probably think it's not going well w/ my H.I think I know the answer to this, maybe I need someone to yell at me-also my
H is working very hard on our R-who out there can
offer me encouragement to "get over it",the OMM
used me, I exposed him, then he wouldn't speak to
me again-I think that should be my wake up call.However-why have I seen him driving by an area where my business and kid's school is located (my "territory")he has no business in that area?Is her curious?I know his wife has forgiven him-she has no identity without him,and
loves her lifestyle.Ok I'm rambling,sorry-any suggestions-my H is like ok let's get on with us!

Claireb,

I am not about to yell at anyone...we should all be here for encouragement and not bashing each other. We all walk in our own shoes and feel what we feel. Anyway, to answer your ?....I would not send a letter. I am both the WS and the BS, I see the OM almost every day and there are things that I never said at the end (3 years ago) that I would like to say now, but, when I see him, I pretend he is not there and I thank God that my H and I are still together. My H had his A a year and a half ago and there was no emotional attachment with him and the OW so it has been easy for him to move on, I had feelings for the OM but my feelings for my H are way stronger and they are more "right" for me. I hope that makes sense. The person I WAS with the OM is not who I am now. If I were to take the chance of writing him or even talking to him I would be betraying my H all over again. Please don't do it....over time you will feel more power over your feelings and know that you belong with your H and the OM is not worth risking that again. I hope that helps. I will pray for you!