It was two years ago today that my WFW called from a hotel room to tell me that she was with OM. I thought I would post an update for those who remember me and might be interested.
DDs and I are doing well. Older DD will be receiving her degree (BS/psychology) this spring and will be going on to graduate school. She has taken American Sign Language as her language requirement and has been doing volunteer work with deaf children. She loves working with kids, and her goal is to someday treat autistic children. Younger DD started college this past fall and made Dean's List her first quarter. She has decided on a career in nursing. I speak to both of them nearly every day and often see them on weekends. I can't tell you how proud I am of them.
As for myself, I have been doing fine. Really. I take care of myself and work out regularly. I am in good physical shape, and financially I am doing well. I am busy with my DDs, family, job and friends. I have had more dating opportunities than I expected, and have gone out a few times (movies, concerts, etc.), but I am not sure that I am ready to start seeing anyone seriously yet. Though there is one woman ...
Two weeks after our Dv WFW quit her job. She left a message on an answering machine saying that she was not coming in again. No notice, no training of a replacement. Gone! The next day she left for Canada. She is now living with OM, who is still married. Neither OM nor his W have yet filed for Dv, though OMW says she is considering it.
I have spoken to WFW once since the Dv. She called to tell me that she had bought some Christmas gifts for the girls and wanted to know if I would split the cost. She said that she thought they might like to get the gifts from "the two of us, together". I told her that I was sorry but she had Dvd me and there was no "two of us, together". When I told DDs they both said it would have been awful to receive gifts that way.
Since our Dv WFW has seen DDs twice. Once at her sister's on Thanksgiving, once for dinner at a nearby restaurant four days after Christmas. DDs speak to their mother once every four to six weeks when she calls them; they do not call her. Very sad.
Also sad is to see so many of my old friends here still struggling. 2long, IsGirl, Mortarman and the others. Stay strong. As long as you have hope please continue to post and help others. Your patience and dedication will inspire the new members as it did me.
I still lurk but I seldom post because of my outcome. For the record, I still love my WFW. She was my girlfriend, my lover, and my best friend. My wife for nearly twenty-five years. She is the mother of my children. I hope someday we can all forgive. Time, I suppose, will tell.
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BS:50, WFW:47, OM:60, OMW: 57
Married 24 years 10 months, together 30 years
Two DD, 18(college freshman) and 21(college senior)
D-day: 2/16/03, wife called from hotel to tell me.
D-day for OM: 4/19/03, older daughter called OMW
PlanB: 8/19/03
Dv granted to WW: 7/15/04
