Hi Feeling Tainted
I guess is about time that you either express your anger to your H and start to let go, or change counseling and strategy in your recovery.
It seems to me that after this long you are not better in those LB's issues.
I guess that you might drink because you are angry or think you are worthless. But although the alcohol might let you forget all this mess for a little while in the long run you are just deteriorating further your relationship and your life. Also the gambling... I got myself some of a problem with alcohol too.
The real question here is when is enough to stop?
Is an addiction and you have to treat it like that because as much as you think you can control it, you can not and you need help for those.
Another question here is what are you willing to loose until you stop? Because you know deep down in you, this can not escalate that much until you start loosing things in life, like work, husband, kids and in the ultimate state life?
Maybe I'm not the best advisor here because I'm dealing with it but anyhow I'll give some...
Do not mix antideps and alcohol.
Do not switch alcohol for antideps. You are not going to get hooked on those and if you do you deal with it later. So keep taking them.
Seek professional help on addictions and anger managment.
Try to join an AA group if you are strong enough to got there.
Buy the book "Many roads one Journey" and read it.
Get help from friends and family.
Try to get closer to God again.
If you can meet us at the ladies board for some chat, this has been very helpfull for me and I got a hangout to chat and keep me away from alcohol. Here is the URL:
http://pub4.ezboard.com/bmarriagebuildersladiesBut besides of all you have to take care of your mind and body. Don't try to to prove yourself how bad you feel doing even worst things. It does not worth to pay the price.
Take care
<small>[ April 26, 2003, 02:19 AM: Message edited by: matilde ]</small>