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My XW lives across the street with the OM which has sucked at times. She recently started a new job, 3rd in less than a year and probably only making about $7.00/hr. The beauty of this job is she apparently works from just before lunch until sometime in the evening including at least some weekends.
Basically this means no more seeing her all the time and maybe a chance at a little privacy for my GF and I. My XW has been paying attention to our activities which as been disconcerting at times.
I wonder how the OM feels? When she moved in with him she had this important M-F 40 hours a week job as the assistant to the president of the company she worked for until she got laid off. Next she ran the office at a new real estate agent working a normal schedule until she got canned. Now she is running an RV Resort and working evenings and weekends.
Actually the truth is she handled purchases for a governement contractor, then she worked as a receptionist for real estate company and now she is a clerk at mini-store in an RV Resort. She likes to embellish.
I wonder if the OM is figuring out the truth or if he still believes her stories?
Anyway. I never minded what she did. It always bothered me that she'd make her job out to be so important and that she was so great at everything she did. That was never important to me. I wouldn't care what she did as long as she was happy, I just hated it when she'd lie to me about it. I know she's been spinning stories to the OM about her jobs, but that is his problem. Even though she's lost several jobs I commend her for doing what she has to do to get by although I wish she was better about paying her child support and taking care of her kids instead of taking care of herself and the OM first.
You don't go on ski trips, buy yourself jewelry and the OM birthday presents when you're not keeping up with your child support. Of course that is a big part of why we are divorced.
Ironically I think the XW's new schedule will hurt there R, but probably help them stay together and keep a roof over her head. He'll keep gettign what he wants out of her without having to be around her so much and probably the same for her.
Personally I like having my SO around. If I didn't I wouldn't be in the R. For me it is all or nothing. I don't believe in R's for convenience or to just not be alone.
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