Hello to all who follow my sporadic threads.

My FWH was released from jail on Monday. So far things have been ok. He has actually wanted to spend all of our free time together and in some ways it feels ok, but in some ways I feel sorta numb. He is being very attentive, loving, and affectionate, which in the past was one of my most important emotional needs.

We've talked, laughed and had fun just like old times when we were the BEST of friends in our M. We have spoken of the A, and I realize how far I have come since D-DAY. He is willing to answer ALL questions and has lots of his own questions regarding my friend I was on a "date" with.

I have a few questions though? What do we do now? We have filled out the Love Buster and EN Questionaire, however he was not very detailed in those and I didn't learn much from his responses. His greatest need right now seems to be how open and honest I'M being regarding my "friend." This is driving me nuts because it wasn't serious at all. I just don't know what to think right now, and I just need some steering in the right direction. We DEFINATELY cannot afford to counsel with Steve right now. So now what?

Dear Luv,

What is it that you want? How about the 2 of you reviewing the book His Needs/Her Needs?

Getting his questions answered is one thing but when WS comes back home, he is the one who must prove his worth and show his value. Does it put him on the hot seat? Yes for a while. Is he willing to do that for the sake of his family?

L.

HEY ORCHID,

I just LOOOOVE hearing from you. Orch, I honestly am have flip-flop feelings, is that normal? Part of me feels like it is my obligation to try to make my M work, then another part of me feels like throwing in the towel and cutting my losses. My H keeps telling me that his number one priority is his family and will do whatever he needs to do in order for me to believe this. I do see a difference in his eyes that I haven't saw in a VERY long time.

However, besides that I sit back and watch how he is dealing with his long time cohorts. He doesn't want to take any phone calls from his friends who would encourage to go clubs, bars, strip clubs. I heard him telling a friend the other night on the phone(didn't know I was listening) that he is "in the house with his wife and am almost 30 years old, tired of partying." That was somewhat encouraging, but I am VERY apprehensive in moving forward.

I will get the book you suggested.

By the way, we are NOT living together right now. I think this is GREAT, helping us to "date" again, and get reacquainted again. What do you think?

Thank you.. I have hazel eyes <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Oooh.... don't pay attention to H2y - LOL!!! He has gorgeous eyes by the way!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hm... about your dating question? Well it sounds good. I recommend you take it slow. Let him show you and you be nice about his progress. Let us know your thoughts on the book.

I know you have come a long ways and want to keep a postive approach. I am quite proud of you.

take care,
L.

Pay me no attention <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />