Hi. I am having a really tough day. After 3 wks of my STBXH calling to see how I was, available all evenings to see the kids, being friendly..he lied to me about having plans with OW and I have ended all contact with him (yes, yelling, accusing, etc.).
This may sound strange..I wasn't invisioning reconcilation..there was no talk of that..he never told me things had ended with OW..I just figured that they had based on his attitude and actions. Dumb, I know. I had hoped they had and we were on equal level again. I completely LB'd..he has since told the kids they would be meeting his friend soon (they haven't met her).
So what's the problem?
Crazy as it sounds..I thought justice had been done..they weren't going to end up together. I would feel so much different if he was dating someone since after the separation.
Now, she gets him and my kids..for playdates. She'll be the great, young,fun addition to their lives..meanwhile, I need to figure out how to pay bills and do homework, etc.
I have told STBXH that he is to not write any more checks out of our account (have asked for months to separate this) and to get ALL of this stuff out of the house (tools etc.).
I know life isn't fair..sorry about the pity party..but I am moving in with parents and working a job not professionally challenging..and everything remains peachy for him. I go from being a fulltime mom to working f/t, seeing my kids everyother weekend and a hour a night..and sharing them with a slut.
I feel duped for trying to do the friend thing with him because he doesn't have enough repsect for me to be honest.
Today, I feel like nothing is ever going to be happen positive for me again.
HOw can WH go so easily from OW to "friends" with their exspouses..I guess he had a head start in moving on..
Thanks for listening.
Can't Sleep

This is still very much a fluid situation. It's ain't over yet.

Keep your chin up.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Can't Sleep - I totally know how you are questioning yourself about how he wants to be friends etc... My ex wants to be friends and I am thinking so that will just ease his conscience you know.. I let my ex keep all of his tools and stuff - for like a year at the house - and once they were gone I felt better - I mean they weren't bothering me but the fact that they were there was making me feel like I was being used... Go and start your own checking account - neither one of you can have your name taken off - you need to start fresh... And about the other woman - I wish I could tell you not to think about the other woman - but even if it wasn't her it would be someone else and even though you say you wish it was someone else - it doesn't really matter - it is just the fact that there is someone else - and he seems to be living this wonderful happy life - being the wonderful Dad - and you get stuck with all of the junk... But your kids realize that... Stay strong...