Well as I posted a couple of days ago my h's gf called to say it was their 1 year anniversary when they started seeing each other. My h hasn't called the kids or seen the kids in over a week now, he is saying he can't call them or see them with me around. And I won't let the kids with him and his gf. And his gf says how good he is with her 3 girls when she has them and they are a family now because he is the love of her life.

Then last Thursday my h was at work and I needed him to sign a check and give him some papers and he told me to wear a see through shirt and wanted to go out last Friday together. Two weekends ago he kept on calling me and wanted me to look up porn stuff on the internet and wanted me to post on a web sight that I was looking for a girl to be with. His gf called me and I just had to tell her what my h wanted me to do and that he wanted us to go out. Now he is calling me a liar as usual when he is. His sister in law heard him and said let her call me I'll tell her the truth, but of course his gf won't because she believes him.

I heard that the other night in a bar she lifted up her shirt and my h was sucking on her breasts in front of people. How sick can you get? Then he has the nerve to call me a slut. I am far from being one of those.

I am better than him or her will ever be.

Goldie don't have any phone contact with her at all...

You take just as much an active role in this sgame when you contact her....or talk to her...

His gf called me and I just had to tell her what my h wanted me to do and that he wanted us to go out.

hang up hang up hang up hang up hang up hang up...

your children abandoning still married off with ow drinking when he should be at AA...calling you up ONCE and talking about posting on the internet looking for a girl for YOU to be with is sick...the fact that you entertained even more than one phone call with him on this is sicker....

you have to be in control of you...
You will have no ground to stand in making boundaries if you yourself do not set and keep...

Goldie I have always been straight with you...and i think you need to take a long hard look at the role you continue to play in their sick world...

you are way to focused on one upping the OW...way to interested in what sick crap he and she are up to...
way way to in it with family members....

be honest goldie...how often are you and she talking...
sounds pretty frequent to me..

these are sick games.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

ARK

Not frequent at all Ark. She won't let me have any contact what so ever with him about anything and if I need checks signed or anything of that nature or if I really need him for the kids I usually get stuck telling her because she won't put him on the phone or he won't talk to me in front of her. My h also told me he is going to get the kids taken off of me, because I mentioned if you recall that I took some pills back in September when I caught the 2 of them together. Can he hold that against me or the courts decision for me not to have the kids? I am not suicidal.

Hi Goldie,

Do you have a legal separation? IF not get one fast. This will protect you financially. Get child/spousal support in place. Also set up visitation. As far as the threat of taking the children away from you that is nothing more than a threat. If he really was concerned for their well-being he would have already filed for full custody. He and the OW will not wish to have the children full time because it will cut into their fun time. Start protecting yourself and let him deal with the outcome of his actions. Please hire a lawyer and at least go for legal separation. Than you will not have to have contact regarding finances. And if he fails to pay you than he can be brought to court for non payment.

I have a hearing tomorrow for child support and I don't think my h is showing up because he said he never got anything about it, because the address I had was wrong and they were resending it to the right one, but he isn't suppose to be living there because it is low income in his gf's name. There is no thing called a legal sep in PA, and right now I can't come up with $2,000 to give the lawyer for a divorce. I gave the lawyer $1,000 for the child support hearing.