Once someone has a one night stand, then comes back to you claiming she loves only you and wants only you, the says she is confused and wants to explore a relationship with the other person, who she does not even know. What are the chances of her coming back?

If you are not married...and there are not children...it's cut and dry....an old tune comes to mind...hit the road jack and doncha come back...

If you are married and there are children then it comes to a lot of soul searching within you regardless of her actions, wants and desires...

a little more information will help others help you...

In my book there is NO such thing as being married AND seeking out other relationships...the two are direct deep conflict that can not exist when both are present...

more feedback IG and then people can help you sort this all out more...

ark

There is no answer to your question, I'm afraid.

What I can assure you, is that by reading on MB, and learning as much as you can, and ENACTING what you've learned and putting it into practice in your life all the time... then THAT will help your chances at recovering your M the most.

There is nothing you can do to change your W's mind on what she wants to do. You can only change yourself. Yes, you can tell her that you don't like that choice, but you must also tell her that you understand that it is HER choice.

Plan A.

That's what you need to do. Fill out the Emotional Needs questionnaires.. hopefully she will help you and fill them out too. If not, then be honest with yourself, and fill them out from her point of view.

In the meantime, keep on posting. Sometimes posts slip off the front pages easily. Keep on bumping them up if you need help. Post new threads. Change the titles so that others may read it. And most importantly... reply to others' threads as often as possible. You'll get more responses, the more your alias is recognized. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Karen

p.s. I read your other thread, but since I cannot relate to that situation, I did not reply. Perhaps you should change the thread title?