Yesterday I had my child support hearing and my H didn't show up, because he said he never got the papers. So far it came to that I would get $1,000/month plus he has to pay for our health insurance. He also owes $1,860.00 in back support since he left. I told him about it and now his gf said he is going full force and is going to try to get the kids off me and make me pay. I know she is the one that is egging him on. I hope he finds out soon what a pyscho she is.

Goldie....

blessings to you...strength as well...

be brave and strong for your children...

Do NOT engage with her at all...she is very dangerous...is she not the one that just recently got her children back after losing custody herself...she is dangerous....

protect you...
NO CONTACT....only speak with husband at work where she is not...

record all incoming threatening calls...
Any appearances by her, call the police...
your children are not safe around a strange woman who is threatening to take YOUR children..

I know you know this...I am offerring you support and belief that even in the midst of their insaneness you are the sane one....

anything that needs signed, noted, observed or discussed do so only at work....

screen all calls...record them as they come...be steadfast in not engaging with her NO matter what bait he/she dangles...

be strong goldie..
ark who is prayen and pullen for ya...

Goldie....empty threat on desperation. The OW gives my SH advice, and she too, lost her kids to her husband. My H didn't pay support for six months while they were having a grand old time...enjoying dinners, movies, nights on the town. I struggled and felt so bad, as he continually told me he didn't have any $$$. Receipts do not lie. Anyway, I said, "I will be kind and not take you to court...we'll do an out of court settlement." He agreed...I drafted it up and I waited until the fog lifted and he felt guilty...then I made him sign it. He did and I get $1100/month for child support. I will apply for spousal support during the divorce. However, OW coaches him and provokes H into telling me that he pays "too much". Oh, it was quite alright that for six months I paid all the tuition, xmas presents, clothes, uniforms, school trips, fundraisers, etc., etc. I've been lucky as H has been faithful in paying (I do wait a day or so sometimes, but he always pays); however, now that he has to support three children (one son by his former marriage) pay for his car, car insurance (no marital discount), his cell and his credit card, he is left with about $500/mo. Since he is living w/OW, he doesn't even have to pay rent. However, how could a grown man live with $500 and have to put gas in his truck, buy food, buy clothes and well, take care of the OW in the style she has been accustomed to. He tries to throw the guilt trip on me, in which I reply...."You put yourself in this predicament...not me, so save it for someone who will listen." Honestly, he never answers, for above anything, he knows at least this to be the truth.

I had an affair in August 2001 and he blames me for his doings, living with his gf. He said I had it all planed out which is not true. I regret doing what I did. I just wish my H would come to his senses 1 of these days and realize what he is losiing and the grass isn't greener on the other side and she is living in a fantasy world with my H.

Why do I still want my H back? I wish I can get over him, but I can't, I long for the days when our family was together.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by goldielocks109:
<strong>I had an affair in August 2001 and he blames me for his doings, living with his gf. He said I had it all planed out which is not true. I regret doing what I did. I just wish my H would come to his senses 1 of these days and realize what he is losiing and the grass isn't greener on the other side and she is living in a fantasy world with my H.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Goldi,
This is fog talk and he knows it. Even if you had an affair and you wanted to punish him, he knows you sure wouldn't pick an OW! Tell him to come up with a better and much more convincing reason. That is way tooo dumb but very WS foggy talk!!! Mine tried to give me that same stupid excuse..... I said "WHAT????" Then I asked if he would buy that excuse if it was given to him. He couldn't say yes. If he did, I would have him committed. LOL!!

IMHO, your H hasn't not hit bottom yet. That creepy OW will help him get there.

You stay out of the way of their spiral. Protect you and the children.

L.