This one's about finances, but more importantly the timing of approaching her about it, and how.
The issue of finances is this:
I'm not interested in financing her dating anymore; their hotels, gas, trips to far off cities, amusement parks, countless other recreational activities, clubbing etc etc that has been going on since I got here. She blew our budget on this stuff already. Our savings is in sad shape as a result.
I want to remind her of her decision to separate our finances and to lay out the plan I would like implimented for mine so that I don't get scr*wed when I get back from war and she leaves me (IF she leaves me, with any luck and Plan A).
The timing dilemma:
My command is making that call TONIGHT about making OM disapear. I figured if I shoot off an email about separating finances now in conjunction with a barage of questions from her command, or barring that, at least the OM leaving and her alternate life being upheaved, it may make her case against me (forcing the breakup) that much more credible.
As I've said, this is outta my hands with regard to my command and I don't want to be pinned with it.
Should I wait awhile to send the proposed financial arrangement?
How should I put it? I haven't thought of any GOOD way to say, I'm not paying for your affair.
Also, she controls all the finances right now and if she wanted to f*** me she could, bad. I trusted her enough when I left to leave her an unlimited PofA and therefore access to everything in my name.
Maybe I should just ask her what her plans are for me financially.
I don't know, any suggestions?
This is a delicate time, any wrong steps and.....
I don't think she would try to screw me financially but then again, I didn't think she would cheat on me either. Wait a minute, she IS screwing me financially. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
That's why I'm here, AGAIN, bugging you guys AGAIN. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
One of the only consistant things in my life is that when things happen they always happen QUICKLY and in GROUPS. Like this.
In the meantime, I've figured out a compromise on the career issue.
I'm putting in an AGR packet that would enable me to stay in MN and continue full time army while I try to figure out if there is any hope for our M. If it doesn't work out, off to SF I go. This way, I don't have to move, if she stays in the house I can be there to make LB$ and if she moves to SD it's still within reach. The alternative was, of course, just going SF and see if she waits for me for 2 years. YEAH, RIGHT!