ATN:

Couldn't find your thread without really digging, so I thought I'd start a new one. Last I heard from you, some potentially good news had just maybe possibly happened?

Was it? Did it?

All my best,
-2long

Where to start? Well I have not posted in some time becuase there was a point where I was just plain old BURNT OUT...I mean I'd come here and vent, then vent with MIL, then with Parents and then with friends and so on. I just got sick and tired of talking about it and quit frankly this was the hardest plave to vent cause I had to type it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Since I have last posted I have sued (ie..filed) my wife for full custody of kids. I obtained a new woman lawyer who has helped me BIG TIME. I figured why let her ruin my life AND get the KIDS. I was not going to let her walk over me. So on June 2nd a judge decided that we he would divorce us on June 10th and deal with custody and property at a later date. Well in the last few months I have been contemplating have Gasteric Bypass Surgery (Weight Loss Surgery). I am a big guy 330 lbs and have tried to diet for the last 2 years. I am man enough to admit that my weight played a good part of my demise of my marriage. Anyway I am on my wifes insurance (more on that in a minute). So at the hearing on the 2nd her mom came with ME and sat with ME and my wife had a fit. That is another story for another time. BUT on the 9th my wife asked my MIL if she was going to the final hearing. My MIL said yes and would be there to support me as she is not in favor of the divorce. My wife yelled at MIL and cussed her out. Well after all that happend I had seen my son during the day and when I dropped him off I forget to bring in his blankee. Well later that nite I saw it in my car and knew I had to bring it home. Well when I got there wife was as nice as could be (MIL called me to tell what happend...I expected the worst). So she began to talk to me asking tons of questions like....what if it dosent work out or what if you fall in love with a nurse (when I have surgey). THis convo lasted about 1/2 hr. I went home expecting her to continue (cancel) the final hearing. Well the next day the hearing was scheduled for 1:30. I figured all that talk the nite before was fog wash beacuse it was already 10:30 am. Well at 11:00 I got a call from my lawyer saying the hearing was canceld and I asked why. She said that her lawyer had called her and they felt that my surgery was imortant and that she did not want to cause any problems...and the judge agreed. So I am to let them know when I have a surgery date (probably mid Aug). Well that is all fine and dandy but I specificaly told my wife that I was having surgery NO MATTER WHAT. And that COBRA would kick in and I could still have surgery although it would cost me ~$400 buck a month until surgery. I feel that she used it as an excuse to buy herself tyime cause she is unsure still.

Well fast forward to this past weekend. I'll post more in a few....got to get clothes dried... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

SO friday my wife asks me what she needs to buy to take care of fertilizing the grass. I told her SPECIFICALLY what to buy. Well during that convo I had warned her that I was going to be in the neighborhood SAT mornining to help a friend. She indicated that I could stop and see the kids. Well I did that and she said I'd be proud of her because they were going to HOME DEPOT to buy some paint to paint a door and also the \fertilizer. Well she asked if I could go so that I could make sure she got the right stuff. Again all she had to do was show the guy at HD what I worte down for her and she could have done herself. Of course I was happy...and of course she said with a happy smirk...this is NOT A DATE...I said of course not <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> . Anyway while we there I asked her if she wanted I would take her and the kids for pizza for lunch and I toild her to think about it and let me know before we leave HD. Well we were packing car and I was on muy way walking to my car (I was not going to bring up lunch) and she asked the kids if they wanted to go...well we all had lunch togehter <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .

DID I MENTION I HATE TYPING>

Any I spent a good part of the day at the house after that fixing odd things and helping out.

Fathers DAY....Awesome... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> After day with kids I dropepd them of and I was going to go over to my FIL to cut his grass (large property) and my wife was going over there for dinner. She was kinda pissed but her parents told her that I was alwasy welcomed and they would never ask me to not come over. So she actually let me take my son and we drove there togheter and wife and D drove speratley. Got there and son and I got on lawn mower and wife and D ate dinner with ILs. Well to make a long story short W warmed me up dinner and we did not argure....I even flirted with her...She bent over and I said NICE THONG...she smiled and said seductivly...YOU WISH...I repleid I KNOW>....

Anyway after all of this I realized that this was the most we have talked/spent together in 6 months....ANd ON TOP OF THAT IT WAS THE WEEKEND OF OUR FIRST DATE 8 years AGO....I totaly forgot...

So yesterday for some reason she did a 180 and was horrible to me.

Today...picked up son from Daycare and dropped him and she wanted to talk to me....she had to put our dog to sleep..(another long story) we talked on deck and she brought me lemonade...We talked about the surgery...A little about us but nothing major...

ATN:

Hey, guy! Good 2 hear from you again!

Listen, I know a 2ple of people who've had the surgery you're talking about, and I gotta say I've been amazed at the results. One is a gal that works for me. Short, but well over 300 lbs before the surgery. She's lost something like more than 150 pounds and is perky as all get out!

I'm betting you won't be able 2 keep your W's hands off you afterwards! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Well, considering you hate typing, you did a fine job of bringing us up 2 date! If you want a critique, I guess you could stand 2 cut back on the LBs some. Main thing is 2 be consistent in your behavior. Stay strong, for sure, as it's good for your self-esteem and your kids' anyway. I think it's great that your inlaws are being supportive of you. Most relatives don't do so well at this even if they mean well. It's 2 tempting 2 take sides. But I don't think your inlaws are doing this, from your description.

We're rootin' for you!
-2long

I figured Melody or WAT would have chimed in? I have seen Melody lurking....what about WAT?

ARE YOU GUYS OUT THERE! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I think WAT's in love!!!! He hasn't been back on since his vacation with his new GF!

-2long

Good for HIM! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />