So i was just wondering....H left just over two weeks ago after saying he was in love with OW...who at that point had only been talking to for about a month...anyways..what i am wondering is if these things mean anything...he is still wearing his wedding band..even at the times he is spending with OW...also, I always say "I love you" when I talk to him....because i do and i am not going to stop telling him...some times he says "i know" or kinda says nothing but some of the times he says " I love you too" does this mean anything..I feel like it is something to give me a bit of hope, but maybe am reading into it as he says he is in love ewith her..he says he loves me but he isnt in love with me anymore...why is he still wearing ring and replying " ilove you" when I say it??? My friend that married her H because they had baby when she was young..never really loved each other..said as soon as they parted she took off thew wedding ring..but my H is still wearing his!! I dont know..any bit of hope i guess i am grasping at!!
Michelle

I think it tells a lot! Usually if they've convinced themselves, they'd remove the ring. My H wore his during the A and never took it off. He had also said after I found out and he stopped that he did love her more than me at time. But that changed later.
He finally said it was all fantasy and he must have been crazy.
They say a lot when they're in the fog. And most of it all just prattle.
Do not give up. keep being the lover you can be. And by the way, go over to marriagebuilders.com and read there.
There are plans there to do, Plan A and Plan B. some have been very successful with them too. I do believe this is a good place for support here, but I think the other site gives more help in plan to save marriage.
God bless, LEN

ty loulou...i appreciate your thoughts!! I am doing the best I can.. trying to stay calm and happy, trying not to nag or cry..it is so hard when you feel so hurt!! Another thing he said when i told him that i was really worried he would ahve sex with her before he thot about making an effort with me ( he said he woudl think about making an effort with me but he said he sint ready to think yet, he said right now he wants to make a go of things with her...they have not had sex yet..so of course it scares me that they will..so when i mentioned this concern to him he said he wasnt going to do that until he was ready to think..i mentioned it to him again today because he spent day with her so i casually asked if they had sex..he said, no I told you i wasnt going to..that must meran something too! maybe not but i like to hope so!! As for sex..he will not with me..i think he feels like he would be cheating on OW or something..that hurts so much since he has always been avery sexual person!! He took some magazines and a movie with him..so that kinda makes me feel better knowing he is helping himself and she is not...sorry if too much detail!! right now he is so close minded about anything i say..i love him so much, and i can get over this, but i dont know how long i will be willing to wait for him to snap out of this "fog" and realize he DOES love me!!