Well I am really beside myself now. Some of you basically know my situation. Well today my entire life once again has been turned upside down. I found out I am pregnant. I can not believe it and not real sure how it happened. ie. use birth control.

H has been a bear now for about 4 days and I feel as though H is at his breaking point and this just may send him over the edge. He has not been a bear because of anything I have done, he just says he is in a bad mood and it has nothing to do with me.

I have not told him..I am scared to death to tell him.

I also found out today OW bought concert tix for H and her for a Nora Jones concert tom. I found out by accident, right after I found out I was pregnant. I kinda lost it on him, we are suppose to pick up his kids tom. nite for the weekend and he is suppose to work also. Dont really know how he was going to pull this one off. I just dont know what to do!!

I really dont know why this has all happened to me, I guess I must have done something terrible to someone. I cant even to begin to figure out what to do her. I feel so stupid. Please help.

Lisa,

This is hard to believe, but almost the exact same thing happened to me...only it's about 18 years ago now. In a strange way....the baby gave me a new focus. My marriage DID survive and we are still together. Oh and that baby? Well he is the sweetest gift that God EVER sent me. His name is Parrish...which means "from the church yard" and he astonishing!

<small>[ June 19, 2003, 05:30 PM: Message edited by: star*fish ]</small>

I have always believed that when God sends you a gift--especially when it's not one you asked for or knew you needed-- you should accept it with gratitude. Oh what courage it will take to face the situation with extra "cargo" but this dose of reality might just help clear the fog. Trust and pray that you will have the wisdom to keep this blessing in the proper light. God bless you!
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Lisa, I know that its easy for me to say this but for now you've got to be the one who shows leadership in following the The Rule Of Honesty . Tell your WH EVERYTHING you told us in this thread. Remember that dishonesty IS one of the 6 Love Busters that you want to avoid like the plague. What better way to show your H the value of honesty by you yourself being honest with him.

Be honest. Dont bring anymore dishonesty to your marriage or your life. AS to what you did>>>Nothing!!!!! I know right now it seems your world is out of control but having a baby is the greatest gift god can give you. I use to say if god doesnt give us more than we can bear he must
think IM mighty strong to deal with all I ahve and currently am. Sn you know what I am. You must be to.

Congratulations on your Little Blessing!

Btw, I got more than one not-planned-used-birth-control-this-is-the-worst-possible-time-and-worst-situation-possible Little Blessings. My youngest Little Blessing isn't so little anymore--6ft/200lbs--and sometimes I feel a little more "blessed" than I would like to be (teenagers!) but he's still one of the greatest blessings God ever gave me. God's timing was the best timing, but it took me a while to realize it.

Take care Lisa--of You, your Little Blessing, your H