Here is my question:

I wonder everyday if my WH thinks about me. Are there any FWS that can answer this question?

Do the WS miss the BS? Do they think of them on a daily basis eventhough they do not call?

Just wondering about this.

My situation is quite like yours, always wonder, but my heart goes out to you, esp. you have two children, I don't know what to say. My WS is in recovery, really unpleasant to be around, WS asked of me to give him space last night for however length of times he needs "to be alone"
,so I did, I have my own apartment but staying with him since his NC, he was on and off, but mostly cold to me, I still try Plan A, these couple of days I had been thinking about Plan B for good, since he asked for me to leave him alone, I did, I am tired of how he trashed me in MB-his own justification why he had an A, WS is in thick fog though NC, my WS loved me very deeply once, I did not meet his needs, I realized all too late,and I'm responsible to his A in some way, but WS is having a hard time to let go & still tell me how exciting his life with OW would be,he forgot about OW's kids,he forgot he only knew OW through the times they spent romantically, eat and play...where was Ow when he experienced all his downturns?(even during his A, he'd a couple of accidents, OW only be with him in GOOD TIMES ONLY...WS always HAD me there when he is in bad shape, hwne he is all healthy, he is OW's...)anyway, WS wants very badly to be reunited with OW, though not in many words, his actions said so, I am worn out...really. If you wonder if your WS thinks about you, let me tell you, he will when his OW is unpleasant or disappoiting in whatever way or whenever OW is PMS-ing, WS does not think of BS when they are with OW, they would,when they were left alone, they share GOOD TIMES whereas because we BS don't/didn't do something to fulfill their so-called needs, they look at OW as their soul-mates, you know, they would not look at how we had gone through all the hard times &
still wanted to be with them at their lowest point of their lives...they have too much fun with OW, there are no commitments or trust but deception, so both WS and OW are in denial, selfishly indulged to fulfill their pleasures and needs and heartlessly, lovelessly toward us. These are my experiences. When WS called or show care is when WS needs certain help or favor or whatever needs that can not be fulfilled by OW. I feel hopeless. Perhaps I am in great denial that WS may never come home..it is time to move on, I am afraid.Sorry that I sound negative but that is all I feel from my WS who is so-called in recovery who promised to give a fair try but still failing to keep his own words and not letting me in, not allowing me to understand his pain instead he said to me that I was kissing his Axx. (trying to be nice) How insulting!

I am sorry, I need to rephrase: I think WS does think of BS but because of the tremendous guilt that have within, they are afraid, they are unable to even see BS eye to eye, that was why I TRIED to understand that WS does have lots of pain, they try to fight their feelings or what is the thing call "Righteousness", instead they run to OW to seek comfort,perhaps then they feel they can avoid dealing with the reality- the betrayal, the trust, the wrong doing...it is all pains, but then BS usually thinks the negative like I always do, my WS is not being very fair or nice to me, instead he continues to blame me for his A,he refuses to take his own responsibilities hence OW becomes the soul mate for they cheat and lie together, does that make sense, in many ways, I believe WS still love Bs just that they are mess up and afraid that BS will never forgive the A therefore an A is an easy way out till they trip and fall....but my time and patience seem to run out. Good Luck. I am just an ordinary person who needs love and attentions too never mind other needs and remain loyal won't help either. Sigh...

I wonder, too. Try asking BLAH but he's deep in withdrawal and may not give the answer we want to hear.

My WS has told me that he thinks about me and even misses me but what good does that do. He remains with the OW.

This is AWFUL for us, isn't it?

Mimi,
yes widthdrawl...fog

What do I think of wangee? I think she is a great person, good woman, many excellent qualities, good family values, loving, protective, loyal, hardworking, sweet, very thoughtful, artistic, unpretentious, easy to please, generous, kind, sociable, realistic, real, patient, forgiving, self-effacing, and many others. I will not go into the negative because her negatives are not even a drop in the bucket compared to mine right now. And what do I think now? I dont know, how could I screw up a marriage to someone like that? I have found such a treasure, and yet I am not even seeing her. Whats wrong with me?