6 mths later & affair info. talks about long term affairs and not ONS. There seems to be some difference cause my WH does not seem to have an addiction towards the OW or he has successfully replaced it w/anger due to OC being born.

I would say we are in Plan A. Is there a different method for coping w/ONS. WS has made changes and is family oriented, but for me it is not enough. I still deal with the fact that even though he had been drinking he drove there and did it. I think of it when we are intimate. I am extremely unhappy and don't know why I can't get past this.

There is an OC but he won't test. I can't even consider respecting him until he atleast finds out, and is financially supporting it if it is his. (His excuses he already has 25% going out for CS and he hopes another man will come along and adopt the kid if WS stays out of picture) Could this respect issue be the barrier between my WS and I and our recovery? What do I do?

DDay 12/02
OC born 8/02
WS son 96
our son 98
WS 30
FW 31 and expecting

Hi Rose,

Well...... IMHO you should do what it takes to strengthen and protect yourself.

For those dealing with and OC, you need to find out your responsibility and rights within your state. You may get better directed support on the Preg/child site.

What do you know about plan A and B?

L.