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I just found out a friend is substaining heavy physical abuse from her H.
Did any of you know good sites, telephone numbers (she lives @ Miami), resources or books for me to recomend?
Thanks
<small>[ June 25, 2003, 02:52 PM: Message edited by: matilde ]</small>
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In retrospect, I wish I had pursued a civil (not criminal) avenue and gotten my H out of the house so that he could realize that it was his problem. Unfortuneately, I had a problem in that I thought it was my problem and I could prevent recurrence if I only wasn't controlling.
<small>[ June 27, 2003, 07:39 AM: Message edited by: broken heart and arm ]</small>
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Hello broken heart and arm
Well she is a friend of a friend... ( I know her but not deeply to even suggest things) she told my friend to stay away and her told me...
I don't know is she want to come here or anything. I'm just helping my friend to help her cause that kind of abuse really got my blood boiling...
So I thought asking here for resources so I could help her through my friend!
Please if you know of anymore I'll appreciate it
Thanks!
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Harley's view is that having him arrested and having a restraining order makes it public and sends the strong message that this is HIS problem, not hers. Perhaps the most helpful book I have found on abuse is Harley's book "Buyers, Renters, and Freeloaders" It describes how renters tend to "give in order to get", magnifying how much they give so that they can justify what they get, never feeling as though it is a good deal for them, and eventually getting through abuse.
<small>[ June 27, 2003, 07:38 AM: Message edited by: broken heart and arm ]</small>
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Hello again
Well this women is hardly talking about the problem... she is trying to hide it but she is not good at it... I'm worried about her and I don't know why is she putting up with this. We are trying to find her help or just stuff to read. Yes I know until she wants the help this is not going to work, but maybe she doesn't know about any site or to whom she can go???
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Take a look at my signature block. I have a link to abuse resources there.
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I haven't found any written material or national resources that were helpful.
There is a woman who did help me a lot from one of the shelters, but she is only a part-time person who works some Saturday nights. Her name is Colleen M. and she can be reached at 763.559.4945.
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Thank you very much for your help on this issue I'll make sure she receives the info posted here... I hope she takes it.
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