MIL just told me this evening that OW has broken the relationship with my H again. (perhaps the 3rd or 4th time now) I'm not getting my hopes up or anything because the last times, he went right back to her. I did get some other news that I had not heard before though. H told a relative of his that he's been having alot of problems with OW's family. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> This could really be the end now. I'm still working on Plan A but it's been hard since I don't see him at all. I've just pretty much been working on myself and hopefully someone will take the word to him about my improvements. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I don't know what my H's top 5 ENs are so I'll have a hard time trying to meet them. Now that she's out of the picture (at least for a while) would be a good time to work on trying to meet those. How can I find out what they are?

I sent him a greeting card on Monday and he received it yesterday. It was our 5 year anniversary on Saturday and I just wanted to let him know that I thought of him and that I missed him. At least he knows that I am still here for him. It was a good opportunity to Plan A.

MIL was also telling me that he showed up at church service tonight. We've been having a special week of prayer. The topic for tonight was about relationships. I know that it wasn't just a coincidence that he happened to show up today. He sat there the entire time and paid close attention to everything that was said. He promised MIL he would go again tomorrow. These are good news because he's said he doesn't want anything to do with the church anymore yet he showed up today. I know it's because he's hurt about the break up but it got him to church! Does anybody have any suggestions on what I can do? I know I just need to take care of ME for now, so should I just keep doing whatever I'm doing or not doing?

If God willing, I shall be moving out of my parents soon and getting my own apartment. My "own" for now, I hope.

Well, I guess this is all pretty much of an update but if anyone has any advice, please give. Thank You All!

Hi Hope,

Well maybe a break in the fog???? Hope so.

Stand back and see what else he does. Don't be too quick to jump in and get too excited. I made that mistake and went through some rough false recoveries.

take care,
L.

I sure hope it's a break in the fog.

Thanks for the advice. I'll just stand back and see what else he does. He might go back with her but since he's having problems with her family, perhaps not. I should be getting more info today about the reason for OW ending their relationship. The only bad thing is that they still work at the same place. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Hopefully he'll go to church again tonight.

Thanks.

Well, H did go to church again last night.

Turns out that OW's parents are the ones that don't want them seeing each other anymore. Her dad is a big man and seems like the kind you don't want to mess with. Not sure if they know or not that he is married. I had wanted to call them but don't see how that will fix anything. I know that God is working with my H but sometimes the fog is just so THICK. He's been pretty down lately (what I've been told - since I don't see him). Like if he's lost the love of his life?!?! I understand completely though from reading SAA. I guess all I can keep doing is stand back and see what he does. I'm not giving up and I know God is giving me all the strength I need.

CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME THE LINK TO THE MB LADY'S CHAT?