Unfortunatley it looks like I am heading into plan B in the near future. I am starting to get a plan ready of what I should do and how I should do it.

I know the mechanics of the Plan B letter and have read alll of the articles and Plan B 101. My questions stem from how to initiate B and behave with it.

For example:

1. Do I sit down with her and give her the letter? Do we have a sort of Q&A afterwords? Or should I not be around when the letter is read?

2. How long after reading the letter should she move out? What is a good timeline to have?

3. Should I get all bank accounts etc. prepared for separation before I give her the letter, or do it all afterwords?

4. How long should Plan B last? What if nothing happens either way - how long should you use Plan B before a Divorce?

Any help would be great for these or other related Plan B questions.

Thanks!

Before you go to Plan B, I would HIGHLY recommend you set up an appt with Steve Harley at Marriage Builders (1-888-639-1639). Since the om is not in the country (do they see each other at all?) I don't think it would be a good idea for Plan B yet.

1. Do I sit down with her and give her the letter? Do we have a sort of Q&A afterwords? Or should I not be around when the letter is read?
Before you give her the letter, you need to make sure everything is set up & ready to go. There doesn't need to be a Q&A as everything should be in the letter, which you SHOULD post here for comments BEFORE giving it to her.

2. How long after reading the letter should she move out? What is a good timeline to have?
Immediately (within a day or two). She may not want to move out. You need to be ready to do so. If you own your home, then I would not recommend you moving out.

3. Should I get all bank accounts etc. prepared for separation before I give her the letter, or do it all afterwords?
Everything should be ready to go. You could have the forms ready and take them/send them off after you see what her rection is to the letter. She may drop everyhting & do whatever needs to be done for the marriage.

4. How long should Plan B last? What if nothing happens either way - how long should you use Plan B before a Divorce?
Generally Harley recommends two years. But since you have only been married for a year, you may not want/need to wait that long. But while you are waiting, DO NOT get involved with any females until this gets sorted out.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> 2. How long after reading the letter should she move out? What is a good timeline to have?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Immediately (within a day or two). She may not want to move out. You need to be ready to do so. If you own your home, then I would not recommend you moving out.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you own your home, look into the possibility of filing for separation and legally removing her from the house. She'd probably get angry with you BUT it would be a good dose of REALITY about what her A has brought to her life. Something that she would not get if you moved out of the house.

What about telling family and friends? With the exception of a select few, pretty much nobody knows about it. The MC suggested we dont tell anyone until we know more about what we are going to do with this.

I would like to call Dr. Harley to talk with him if I can, I will give that number a call.

What about telling family and friends?
Pretty much everyone should know, prior to Plan B. This puts pressure on the ws to end the affair.

I would like to call Dr. Harley to talk with him if I can, I will give that number a call.
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