Below is a copy of the e-mail I sent to my WH trying to get the ball rolling on separation matters along with his reply.
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The Reply:
You do not get to pick and chose when you will communicate with me and
when you will not.
Regards,
(Name)
Your husband. The person you should have loved.The e-mail I sent:
On Wednesday, Jul 16, 2003, at 15:37 Pacific/
> (Name),
>
> There are a few matters arising from our "separated" marital status.
>
> 1. Can you please confirm the date of separation?
> I suggest the date that you moved out of our flat. Was this the 6th
> Feb? Please confirm.
>
> 2. Can you please confirm what debts you currently have, and also
> what debts you had at the date of separation? Who the creditors were
> and what amounts you owed. Include credit card debt, bank overdrafts
> and student loan debt too please.
>
> 3. I requested the return of my wedding ring some time ago. You said
> that you would give it back. Please could you follow through on this?
>
> I do not intend to seek legal separation at this stage. It seems a
> waste of our time/money. I need this information in order to absolve
> myself of any financial liability for your debts. FYI, I had no
> outstanding debts at the date of separation.
>
> I realise that you may not have this information at hand, but I
> would like to get the matter sorted out by the end of the week.
>
> Warm wishes,
>
> Claire
> No 1 Wife.
*Should I reply to this? At all??
* Maybe reply by repeating the Plan B message - and say to him that he can contact me whenever he wishes, so long as he has decided to end his relationship with the Concubine (although I'd use her real name of course)
* The legal issues to do with separation are a concern. WH has his head in the sand (or possibly up his A$$?) regarding the legal implications of our current marital status. He seems to be holding out on signing himself off my lease - possibly just to Pi$$ me off.
* The bit about "the person you should have loved" Well that is quite typical. Has always blamed his affair on me for not showering him with enough affection. And now he is feeling sorry for himself and trying to make me feel guilty.
Never mind the financial sacrifices I made to stay here with him, putting my plans for travel on hold while he wanted to stay here in order to conduct his affair. <small>[ July 17, 2003, 08:52 PM: Message edited by: ClaireL ]</small>
