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#1083527 07/22/03 02:01 PM
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T00MuchCoffeeMan:
<strong>I'm your average size guy and my W's XH was, according to her, an 8 incher. A long time ago she said that having sex with him had been enjoyable when they were newlyweds because of the care and attention he payed to her and his willingness of forgoing his pleasure for hers but as far as the purely pleasurable aspect was concerned, his vaginal thrustings were not as pleasurable as his use of his tongue on her clitoris. Maybe instead of comparing penis size we guys should start comparing our tongue sizes. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Pepperband and I would agree on that =)/.
Oh and that 8 incher sounds painful!!

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Size is a nice concrete comparable trait that doesn't mean diddly squat. If she knows she is desired and pleases you and you are able to please her either with your penis, tongue or otherwise then that is pretty much what counts.

You can be too big and no woman will like it if it hurts unless she's into that kind of thing.

It is not all about you. It is about her too.

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I told the Dustdawgie that it don't matter what size "pup" it is...as long as it is *my pup* ...meaning I am happy with whatcha got as long as it is mine. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">(Granted if I were Blind Sided’s mushroom cap I’d be concerned )</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Please re-read my post, it is not I that has the "mushroom cap", it was one of the OMs! Puh-leeze get your facts "straight", if nothing else! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Blind Sided:Puh-leeze get your facts "straight", if nothing else!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROTFLMAO,
I knew that, and I knew what I meant to say, it just didn't come out right. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

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Well guys at least our funny bones are well endowed. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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I know I was a little defensive there, but every centimeter counts! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

(Yeah, that's right, I use metrics. Bigger numbers that way! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

<small>[ July 22, 2003, 04:32 PM: Message edited by: Blind Sided ]</small>

#1083534 07/22/03 07:12 PM
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I am going to be scarred for life!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hey, where did HurtInItaly go anyway!

Come back, come back!!!

<small>[ July 22, 2003, 07:13 PM: Message edited by: 2ndfiddle ]</small>

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TMCM said: Well guys at least our funny bones are well endowed.

That's so much more impressive than any other bone!

Gallagher once said, "If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything."

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Thanks for all the input. To make matters worse, my wife is back in the States visiting her folks, and I have nothing but time to think about these kind of things. Guess my imagination was getting the better of me.

I guess I really shouldn't worry, she has been calling me the "Tongue Master" for years! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by hurtinItaly:
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I guess I really shouldn't worry, she has been calling me the "Tongue Master" for years! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, there you go, Italy. 'Nough said!
Italy, dear, EAs and PAs have nothing to do with the BS. They have everything to do with the WS. You could be eagerly asking "How High, dear?" to her every desire and her FOG would still convince her that it wasn't good enough. (If she is indeed still wandering)
Have I lost you with the abbrevs.?
I thought I was going to have to come and get you with the proverbial 2x4 and thwack you a few times.
"Tongue master"? Huh?
Give my H some pointers, won't you?
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You know, it always amazes me that men are so obessessed with size. Believe me, it's not women who think about it. Why do they think MORE is better or that it has the slighest thing to do with one's manlihood? I don't get that. We think about romance, affection, etc. THAT is what gets us in the mood.

My EXH was very well endowed and I could hardly stand to have him touch me, much have sex with him. My current DH is moderately endowed and I am always ready to roll with him!

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by oswald:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Blind Sided:Puh-leeze get your facts "straight", if nothing else!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROTFLMAO,
I knew that, and I knew what I meant to say, it just didn't come out right. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

Oz</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">hahaha, you gave poor Blindsided heart failure!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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HII: Er, she wouldn't know his size until they were actually doing it, right? (or on the brink - long past the point of betrayal, anyway) - so it could not have been a factor in the start of the affair. If you are thinking about the affair at all, you should be wondering what he did to get her to the point of betrayal - what she was missing in her marriage.

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john,

I know, but I have never been very comfortable about that part of myself, so I guess that it got the better of me.

Plus, now that it is over, I do not want her to remember that event with the OM as he was bigger, better, etc. I guess it is pride. We are working on the marriage, but it is just something that keeps haunting me, among other things.

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Hey Gang,

So this is what the board discusses when I have my back turned!!!

Well, all I can say [proudly] is that I am hung like Einstein and as smart as a horse. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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It's NOT the length of the tongue either!!! (eyebrow touching notwithstanding)

It's the gentle softness and the cool wetness that inflames desire .....

Listen and learn ..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Good Kissing is waaaaaay up there with what pleases women ..... waaaaaay above anything size related.

Listen and learn ..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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It's more important to focus on the things she likes then the size. Just think, if you could make your wife so incredibly pleased by giving her a massage or foot rub and then having sex? (This can tend to make a person tired though and not want sex)

Maybe even do some of her fantasies. There will always be better, there will always be worse, but as long as you are trying that's all that matters. When you stop trying is when she may stop being pleased.

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Sensitive New Age Guys

Words and Music by Christine Lavin and John GorkaCopyright 1990 CL2 (ASCAP)
& Blues Palace Music (ASCAP)


Who like to talk about their feelings?
(Sensitive new age guys.)
Who's into crystals, into healing?
(Sensitive new age guys.)
Who like to dress like Richard Simmons?
(Sensitive new age guys.)
Who are hard to tell from women?
(Sensitive new age guys.)

Who like to cry at weddings?
Who think boxing is upsetting?
Who tapes "Thirty Something" on their VCR,
Who's got "Baby on Board" stickers on their cars, oh,

(Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh)
Whose last names are hypenated?
(Sensitive new age guys.)
Who like "Three Men and a Baby" a movie I hated?(Sensitive new age guys.)
Whose consciousness is constantly raising?(Sensitive new age guys.)
Whose tax free income is amazing?
(Sensitive new age guys.)

Who thinks that red meat is disgusting?
Who's into UFO's channeling, and dusting?
Who believes us when we say we've got premenstrual syndrome?
Who doesn't know who plays in the Seattle Kingdome?

Who likes music that repetitious?
(Sensitive new age guys.)
Who likes music that's repetitious?
(Sensitive new age guys.)
Who's concerned about your orgasm?
(silence) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Well, I guess it's more important that they have 'em.
(Sensitive new age guys.)

Who carries the baby on his back?
Who thinks Shirley MacLaine is on the inside track?
Who always sings on sing-alongs,
Even when they can't stand stupid sing-along songs?

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Well to be blunt I am not lacking in that department especially compared to the OM. But my WW cut me to the core when she the most sensitive part for a woman is upfront so length means nothing.

I use to think the old saying "its not how deep you fish but how you wiggle the worm" was a made up excuse for those lacking. But boy did I get a cold splash of water on that one.

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