H has just done a NC letter 10.5 mths after D-day. I was SO proud of myself in the way I handled the latest contact - I was calm and assertive. The fact that he made plans to meet her was SUCH a slap in the face for me. I told him calmly that it showed a complete and utter lack of respect for me, as if he was thinking "[censored] her, what she doesn't know....etc." H was mortified when I verbalsied that to him. I saw a complete 180 in his attitude. He's away golfing right now and is calling, texting, etc. Before he left he said I was smothering him. Not to call or text him all the time while he's away. I've done that - exactly as HE requested.
Now - he WANTS me to call him!!! I, however, feel quite comfortable NOT calling him. I do text a reply to his texts, but don't initiate. IT MAKES ME FEEL SO GOOD FOR HIM TO CHASE ME!!!!!
I was just wondering if this is a normal reaction for a BS who has been through the mill and Plan A'd her butt off? (And got through it all relatively sane while achieving the objective.)
I realise that there is still a long way to go..... I JUST FEEL SO GOOOD RIGHT NOW! I hope it's not a control thing on my part - that it's just some sort of reward (?) for all the B/S, that there WAS a reason why I went through all this pain.
I told H shortly after he came clean that I wanted him to fall in love with me all over again... I think it's happening, or is it wishful thinking?

Something else..... someone (a woman, NOT OW) recently accused me of being "a walking advert for assertiveness." I say "accused" because I was astounded at the time and didn't really see myself as such. I asked "Well, is that a good thing or a bad thing?" She didn't say! I found MB a long time after D-day. H says if it helps me that's good, but he doesn't go in for that sort of thing. That's fine by me, MB has helped me save my marriage and, more importantly, my sanity. I have truly learned so much here, reading... seeing the stories of others.... it really has made me a calmer person, more able to understand what has been going on - with H, with me AND with our marriage.
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Jackie,

It may be normal for some, but I think you are luckier than most. Sometimes people don't know how to respond to good news....especially when many of them are so sad. Folks like myself who have made it to recovery are the most likely to respond to happy threads. But I'm not kidding, the kind of turn around you are seeing is probably not as typical as most. Keep posting and don't get discouraged.