I came to MB two years ago to try to save my marriage. I have read so many heart wrenching stories, told my own and received so much support and advice, for which I am eternlly grateful. I've made some good friends and learned SOOO much about relationships, the human psyche, affairs, etc. Most importantly, I've learned so much about myself. I've learned the depths of the love for my W and I've realized I'm much stronger emotionally than I ever would have imagined.

I've grown and I'm a better person today for having found MB. Sadly though, I was unable to save my marriage, in spite of all my efforts, but I can live with the peace of mind of knowing I did all I could. My divorce is not over yet, it may not be for several more months, but it's just a formality at this point. I'm not sure what the future holds, but I know I will be happy be again someday, hopefully sooner than later.

I don't recognize many of the names around here anymore. Most of those who were here two years ago have moved on one way or another. I want pay a special thanks those who've been most helpful: WAT, hope4future, lifeismessy, SNL (yes, SNL), NICK123, etc. Forgive me for leaving anyone off that list. I'll check in occassionally, but it's time to move on with my life and that means saying goodbye to MB. Good luck to all of you and God bless.

sad dad

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sad dad,

I hope the road ahead of you is sunny. I'm sorry that things didn't work out with your wife, but I do know that when God closes a door, he opens a window. I look forward to the day you return to us with happy news about your future. I am sure you will be missed.

Two years... can you believe it??

Maybe there's something special about that length of time... You seem to be in an increasingly good place, and I think I am too probably, willing to have closure, no matter what the WS wants to believe about it.

They can put whatever spin they want on the outcomes, but we know the path we took was the best possible one... that'll *never* change! It's a path to peace that has been hard... but I think 10, 20 years from now, it'll seem so obvious, so logical, so clear. And sadly, the WS will see it that way too, someday. Seems sad to me, to think of waking up, seeing someone next to you, and wondering, "What if that was my X? What kind of life would we be living?" Because we don't need to go there - we go into the future with our eyes wide open.

Sad dad, don't feel you have to leave! I don't post much anymore because I don't have a great deal of time and there isn't much to post about with us. Still, I hold lurker status and try to follow a few stories.

I think, though, that once your divorce finally is completed, that you will have plenty of living to do! I'm sure sitting around reading and posting would not be on your list of things to do.

Anyway, we all wish you the best...and I'm completely sure you'll find it!! Good luck!!

Sad dad,

I do understand your need to move on with your life but please, reconsider leaving MB. Take a vacation, a leave of absence, but think about returning to offer hope and guidance for those still struggling. Yes, the site IS Marriage Builders and that is the purpose. But the ultimate goal on this forum is to survive the pain of infidelity as a stronger, more knowledgable person. And you have done so.

While struggling with your own situation, you have offered and provided so much advice and compassion for others. Your absence would be greatly missed. When you are ready, when you are able, please consider returning and giving back what you received. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I'm wishing you the very best in your future. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Sad Dad,
I could havce written your words myself... spot on. I'm a touch behind the curve and lag your sitch by about half a year or so, but as it stands, I'll be in the same place as you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
You write 'I know that I will happy again - sooner or later'. I really do wish you all the best and hope that the moment of happiness will arrive sooner rather than later for you. By god, you've deserved it! (and me too!)
All the best,
N

PS - you got an email ads you want to share? happy to stay in touch.

Blessings, SD. May our paths cross again!

Sad Dad,

I am almost at the 2 year mark myself.. and feel my ws is still a different person than he was prior to the A. I don't know what wht is going to happen to my M right now, but it is getting to an ending point one way or another regarding the seperation.

I am very tired of my wh and his runaway from problems attitude.

Thanks for posting your update and status. I wish you much happiness living a full life with people who love you.

Honey

You will see the future is waiting for you and you will thrive like many of us. Our M didn't survive A ... BUT WE DO.

-rh-

SD,

I hope you do come back occasionally. I am certain that you will have a great life once this is all over. You have indeed learned alot, and I think that knowledge will lead to you enjoying alot.

God bless

JL

I hope you will pop in every once in a while to share what you've learned with people who are struggling. I think for those confronting divorce, your story of survival is helpful and reassuring.

By the way, were you able to work out all the details with the divorce- the retirement plans and financial support? As I recall, your WW was making some fairly unrealistic demands.

I hope that once the divorce is over it will give you closure and you will be able to find the relationship you truly deserve.

sd,
I gave myself a job here, so I guess I can never leave. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> One day I'll have to hire someone to take my place as the Photo Album Keeper. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I know whatcha mean though, and I don't blame you a bit. This forum is an unbelievably fantastic place. It was definitely here when I needed it. But there comes a time for some of us to move on. A time to let some of these thoughts... some of this pain... go.

I do hope you will pop in every now and then and post an update. Bunches of us are interested in seeing how you do. There's a new life for you out there. I am finding my way, and I know you are too.

MB hugggssssssssss!!!!

Faith1

sad dad-

I was wondering how things were progressing. I guess they are not. I'm sorry you are stuck in this limbo relationship. You and I started posting about the same time two years ago. I think you've contributed a lot to MB with your story and experiences and advice. My marriage did not recover after my time here on MB or coaching with the Harley's. My marriage will be over within a couple of weeks. It hurts, but it is time to start thinking about moving on.

Good luck to you and your daughter. I hope you find that peace and happiness soon.

{{{{sad dad}}}}

HoFS