Hey all... I need some advice on how to handle something.

Yesterday was my anniversary. I've been through hell since last Nov. dealing w/ H and unfaitfulness. I've posted a lot here and you guys have been the #1 source of me keeping my sanity.

Well, after a seperation from H, he came home, stopped going out of the country and has, for the most part, been trying to be a part of the family. He won't go back to counseling but I am trying to apply all I've learned through here, counselors, Steve Harley and many many books. Been doing a pretty good job lately w/ not love busting.

So, last week I went out of town. H stayed w/ kids, everything good there. Before I left I made a dinner res. for anniversary, got the kids to stay over friends, and put a bottle of Dom in the fridge. While I was away, I bought pretty lingerie. So, everything was taken care of and I figured that I'm not going to wait around for him to shower me w/ love and affection. I would put my best foot forward.

So we go out that evening and everything was real nice. When we got home I put on the lingerie and said that it was his present. He loved it! But you know what? He didn't give me one gift. I'm upset because in the 14 years he has bought jewelry and all kinds of nice things. It just seems that he could care less. What would you do or say?