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#10859 09/14/99 06:46 PM
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I noticed in one of your posts you said a "fantasy". Just wondering if your feelings have changed since previously you had metioned that it definitley was not a fantasy?

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dj,<P>There are different aspects of fantasy. The love I felt for the OW was not a fantasy. But the fantasy was that I thought I could be happier with her than with my wife. The fantasy was in not realizing that any relationship takes work, whether its with my wife or with the OW.<P>Many betrayers say that even the love they felt was not real. That it was just the "high" experienced by the addiction of the affair.<P>--andy

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Thanks for the clarification.


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