In my previous threads I described how my WW is moving the affair up a notch involving our 11yo D in her life with OM. Mortarman suggested I talked to WW about my concern after meeting an attorney.

I had a discussion with an atty and the truth is, there is nothing I can legally do to stop this from happening. It's sad. We've been living separately for more than 6 months now. The atty says, it's her right.

I was in plan B for 4 months now. It brought me necessary peace and balance, but dealing with this is too hard. They spent two nights camping together despite the fact that I let them know I object for my D joining them.

My D called me as soon as they came back. They were spending time together as a family <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> and OM was trying to strike a conversation with her all the time. They slept in different tents.

I am asking for support most of all. This is very hard. I imagine is very hard for my WW as well. Could this be an eye opener for her? Is there anyone here that was in the same situation where kids were forced to accept their mother/father being with someone else?

I don't see my wife wanting to come out of the fog. When I mention the word "affair" to her, she asked "What affair?". Clearly an indication of deep fog as it is directly from the manual.

Any support will be greatly appreciated.

BigStar

Are you legally separated? I ask because in some States, spouses can include clauses in their separation agreement in which they agree not to have any OP staying the night over while the children are visiting. If there is no separation agreement, then she (and you) can have anybody in your homes and there is legally nothing that the other can do against it.

We're not "legally" separated. However Canadian laws consider the couple separated as soon as they start living apart whether there is an agreement or not.

The attorney says that I cannot stop him from staying overnight. We will procede with the separation agreement next week and I will try to have a clause that would set some rules for OM. However the prospects are very bad. There are very few restrictions.