My husband and I have been together for 10 years now and married for 6. He left at the beginng of last month, saying that he was no longer happy in our marriage. I questioned him and he told me that there was no one else and that he still loved me. He also told me that he knows without a doubt that I love him. He's just not happy.

We have had some problems with my family and I think that has a lot to do with his leaving. Also, in the past year I've taken several trips with some of my girlfriends. He has know told me that it really bothered him that I had went. Since the first trip last June, we really started having more problems.

Slowly, we both started shutting down. He has told me that if he had to make a decision right now he would file for a divorce. I have asked him to give us some time to see if we can work things out and he has agreed.

I want to make him happy again. He feels that he's giving me more than enough chances and just doesn't know if things will ever change. I've prayed everyday since he has left for God to bring him back home. I love him and want our marriage to work out.

Is there any advice that you can give me to help bring him home? My best friend keeps telling me to give up and move on. But I believe that as long as there is love there is hope. I want to put our marriage on the right track. Please help if you can. I just need to know what I can do to turn his heart around and have him come home.

I believe that yes you can save your marriage. I hope to save mine.

Now saying this you should know that were is similar situations. My WW confessed and left me 5 months ago, her affiar ended 2 months ago.

To this day she hasn't talked about our problems or what went on in the affair. I've tried to understand and think of what went wrong but I've had no feed back from my WW. And you sound like your getting little from your husband at this point regarding what's driving him away.

All I can suggest is read this site and Plan A. Just assume he had an affiar and use the same tools to refocus him in the direction of the marriage.

Re-assure your husband that you love him, want to work on fixing what's wrong but you need to understand what's wrong in order to work on fixing it.

And don't complicate things by dating, taking on new debt or getting pregnant. Now is not the time for life changing decissions.

sit tight as others with more experiance will be here soon.

Hello mybush --

Take the time to get information from this site and the books by the Harley's. We have all heard "I"m not happy" "I love you but I'm no longer in love with you".

I don't honestly know if you can save your marriage, but you need to try for two reasons: a) there is a very good possibility that you can save your marriage and b) in the unlikely event that you cannot, you will know you did everything YOU can do to save it.

I did so much wrong at the beginning -- begging, crying, getting angry. I wish I had found MB and the principles and books here sooner. It would have helped my sanity tremendously.

The best advice I can give you is to give your H some space and make changes in yourself after you examine what you need to change. The hardest thing to hear right now is that you can only control what you do and you can only change yourself. It seems so unfair, but it really is what helps you and your self esteem during this time.

My best to you. I'm sorry you are here, but you can learn much from the site, the books, and reading others posts.