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<small>[ August 07, 2003, 11:41 PM: Message edited by: No2nos ]</small>
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I hear your hurt and understand what you are going through. The time for plan B is when you feel all love for your spouse is going away. It is when you can no longer see your spouse because the A is causing you to lose your love for H.
The point of PB as I understand it is threefold:
1: To protect your love for spouse and remove the A from your face
2: Prepare yourself emotionally for possible divorce
3: End the doormat feeling of plan A.
Only you will know when it is time for plan B. Just remember not to make decisions when you are emotional, what until you can be rational.
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were you served because your names on the mortgage? OR Is the house in your name?
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<small>[ August 07, 2003, 11:42 PM: Message edited by: No2nos ]</small>
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I don't know who they are but I assume it's your lawyer. Your own independant lawyer.
Do you want to keep the house if your husband doesn't keep making the payments? That would likely meen refinancing is equity protion if he's entitled in your state as the house is in your name not his.
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<small>[ August 07, 2003, 11:43 PM: Message edited by: No2nos ]</small>
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Have you not been making the mortgage payments? What was the agreement about the mortgage? If he has been living with the OW for some time, have you contacted an atty about a seperation agreement to protect you financially? Are you taking charge of your finances?
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<small>[ August 07, 2003, 11:44 PM: Message edited by: No2nos ]</small>
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Melody makes a great point.
You should be talking about financial support if you have not already and potential splitting of other assets - furniture, cash, pensions etc.
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<small>[ August 07, 2003, 11:45 PM: Message edited by: No2nos ]</small>
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nonos, you can't sacrifice your financial interests for fear of committing a lovebuster! I am still confused, though, if you have been making the mortgage payments, how come there is a foreclosure?
I would suggest starting taking steps IMMEDIATELY to seperate your finances and arrange LEGAL payments via seperation. You need to also start figuring out how you will live on your OWN income plus child support because you can't count on your H. The responsibility for your support ultimately lies with you and you must pick up that mantle and start taking care of yourself.
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<small>[ August 08, 2003, 12:04 AM: Message edited by: No2nos ]</small>
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