My H had a PA with a very good friend of mine,she was a W of a co-worker. On d-day I left him for 2 weeks. He told me the day I left, that he told the OW that he would not talk to her for 2 weeks.He then went out of town for his job for 1 week. That week he was gone, the OW called his cell phone 2 or 3 times a day. I knew because it was my phone also so I knew the password. She did not care that he said that he was not going to talk to her for 2 weeks. Anyway to make this short, My H and I are still together, he wanted this. We quit our very good paying jobs and sold our house and moved to where we grew up. My H did all this because he found MB online and he decided that staying with his family was the right thing to do. He wrote her a letter telling her it was over and to never call, e-mail, or write again. She did't care, she e-mailed him once a week, he would tell me and show me the printed page. We changed the cell phone #. We moved to a totally different state. So today was my H's b-day and I picked up the cell phone and she left a message on it that she really misses him and happy b-day! He was shocked that she even got his #(we lived in a very small town, so almost everyone knows each other or of each other) I want to call her and scream at her, she is obsessive. I don't know what to do.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So today was my H's b-day and I picked up the cell phone and she left a message on it that she really misses him and happy b-day! He was shocked that she even got his #(we lived in a very small town, so almost everyone knows each other or of each other) I want to call her and scream at her, she is obsessive. I don't know what to do.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Don't respond to her because she'll realize that she was succesful in reaching him but instead report this violation to the cell phone provider so they can launch an investigation as to who may have leaked the info to her. In the meantime do consider stop using that cell phone provider and to sign up with another one.

I'm really sorry to hear that you are going through this - I also commend your H for his honesty in coming clean about everything.

Given that you have gone to such lengths to distance yourself from this woman, and she continues to find you, it looks like you have every reason to now take legal steps to prevent her from contacting you.

Definitely do what TMCM recommends, change cell phone companies and have NO contact with her. Then take legal advice. Your H has made it clear to her in writing and by his actions that he wants no further contact with her, and her attentions now constitue harassment. I would come down hard on her with the law on my side.

Take care,
LIR