</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by looking for you 2223:
<strong>orchid
you have no right to qustion me about this and for your little mind that you have but topic said one thing and does anther I did not brake up her family. her ex and I did not get together ontill dec 15 so that meets that she was already out of the house and I never see her ex ontill dec 4 so how did I brake up her family .
it take two to make a marriage work and it take two to brake it up .
and i am very education so I am not a child I am in my late 20"s .
if you feel you need to bad mouth me and say thing you don't know about me please feel free to write back.
looking for you 2223</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Orchid: Young lady (I can call you that because you are), you have a lot to learn but it seems your stubborness may be hindering your progress. You should not be ashamed of being young unless you choose to waste it.
As for having a 'little mind', let's give you the benefit of the doubt on that one..... but my 'little mind' sees a lot more than yours regardless of your 'size'. You still need to grow up.
As for your 'attempted excuse' of getting together with the WS, remember he was and is still married. As long as you continue to believe your statements, you are vulnerable to making the 'same' mistake again. In which case if you have met a better man, he may go running in the other direction.
Of course you don't have to read what I write. Your choice. You will have your choices to look back on when you get older. Hope you don't have too many regrets. Talk to some older ones and see how they view life now vs when they were your age.
I am not saying things I don't know about you. I am restating how YOU are portraying yourself. Did you know that is how you are coming across?
I am glad you are 'educated'. Your last 2 posts seem to be written better. It pains me to see those anyone waste their life. Is that why what I post hurts you sooo much? If you pay attention, you will see it is meant to help not hurt. If you can't see that yet....then you may just have some growing up to do.
The shameful part (which I hope you don't do) is that there are some 30, 40, 50, 60......80 year old people in the world who insist on acting as immature. It looks worse on them and most people would not take the time to bring it to their attention. Instead most would just let those kinds of people make fools out of themselves and laugh behind their back. If you can prevent that from happening in the future (by making better choices) then you will have saved yourself a great deal of grief. If you continue with your current attitude....well..... Hm....... time will tell.
I don't particularly care what you think about me. Your opinion doesn't influence my decisions in my life. I am just taking some time to help you out.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by looking for you 2223:
<strong>Im not done yet. for your information I am with a new man that makes me feel like a million bucks and he wants revenge on dave as well. I am not asking for HELP im asking what Dave is capable of because i am scared. Like I said if i could turn back time I would have never dated that man. He told me I was special and that he loved me. I believed him. Boy was I stupid. Yeah your right...What was i thinking?I never gave your son a gift..swear to god.Hes a cutie by the way;)Trust me Im not out to get you or make your life more stressful..I just want to make sense of what just happened to me.And I thought if i could get any support it would be out here.But I guess not.You all say im dangerous and whatever.Why dont you think of me as another victim instead of daves side kick. Like I said before Karen Im on your side and that is from the bottom of mt heart:)</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Orchid: There is much conflict in your posts from one moment to the next. We have seen similar traits before. Are you dangerous? Maybe more to yourself than anyone else.
As for being on Karen's side, you have not even walked in her shoes for more than a couple of steps. But if you learned how to avoid guys like that for the rest of your life, consider yourself fortunate.
Life may not be as kind to you the next time.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by looking for you 2223:
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i am not the bad guy in this situation </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Orchid: In this one you were. By choice or deception, you were an accomplice since you choose to be in that home and put your markings were you did not belong. As for your choices to continue in that path....again....time will tell.
Believe it or not (again your choice), I think there is hope for you. You don't need my approval, you need to be happy with your choices. They may not make you rich but happiness comes from within. Maybe then when you have a family, you will be loving yet firm with them because you now know how warped some can be and how easy it is to manipulate a young mind.
take care,
L.
