I am looking for people that have attended a MB weekend. I really wanted to go to this one coming up in Orlando but financially we just can't go. But for the future I would like to know from people that have attended what they thought about a weekend experience! Thanks

I've been to the weekend. Twice. Once as a marriage thing and once for the coaches' training. It is incredible to hear Bill Harley speak and to see the REAL MB concepts laid out so clearly and concisely.

Studies have shown that marriage enrichment seminars actually tend to do more harm than good if there is not a way to follow up the increased expectations with real changes.

This is what sets the MB weekend apart from all the others. It's not just a weekend where you go to hear another speaker present their ideas on how to make your marriage better. You will leave there with at least 24 weeks of step by step lessons to walk you through everything you need to know or do in order to put that information to work.

And you will have continued access to Dr. Harley and can get his personal advice on your situation through the private part of this forum.

If you are struggle with the assignments you can request a mentor to help you out and keep you on track. I'm one of those.

I realize that the cost is prohibitive, but what we know is that couples who attend the weekend and complete the assignments restore their marriage and are very much in love with each other at the end of it. Every one of them. No exceptions.

I won't kid you, the lessons are challenging, and part of the assignment is to spend 15 hours a week with your spouse giving each other your undivided attention meeting the needs of conversation, affection, recreational companionship and sexual fulfillment.

You'll need to read, listen to tapes, and do some written work. More than that, you'll need to examine honestly your own behavior and gather up the courage to make real and permanent changes. It's putting your money where your mouth is...

If you have any way of getting the funds.... beg or borrow them and go. The cost is not even a drop in the ocean compared to the cost of a failed marriage.

C

thanks cerri for your reply. We have 5 kids, and are on the opposite coast as this seminar. It would be really expensive for us, it would really put us in a financial bind. I was hoping that they would have another one in the future that would be closer or that we have saved and are more financially prepared for. I really feel a weekend with the follow up would be really beneficial to us. My husband doesn't like to sit and read...so getting him to read a book would be impossible. I really need him to start working at our marriage because there are things I am finding I can't live with anymore. I feel like I am drowning! Thanks for your help. I will keep trying at the possibility of going. Thanks.

Have you called MB to see if they are planning another weekend any time soon? They used to have a somewhat regular rotating schedule of cities and dates but I don't know if that's still the case.

Motivation is always the problem, and there's always one spouse who seems more willing than the other to do the work.

An alternative would be to see if he would agree to read HN/HN with you, one chapter at a time (they flow easily) and then discuss the questions at the end.

I don't know any of your story or what the issues are in your marriage, but there are quite a few things that you can do on your own to get things moving. At some point he'll need to either join in or you will begin to lose your feelings of love for him. So, I would suggest that it's best to be proactive on your part to make that less likely to be the case.

If you have infidelity or control and abuse issues then the picture becomes a bit more complex, but it's still workable.

Good luck!

C

I looked and there is going to be another weekend in the spring of 2004. So hopefully that will give us time to plan financially for it. Thanks for your feedback cerri!

4 wife and I are going along with another MB poster from the recovery board will let you know how it went.

cerri,

I have a question for you or anyone who when as a single. I am Dv and planning to go as a single. I know MB weekend also take single, what is your take for someone go as single ?. My objective is to learn more about MB, I am active in my church and has been trained to be lay conselor, helping people in God's way.

I want to meet Harley and get tons of question answered.

Thanks,
RH

Dear 4T&Ns,

You are on the west coast? Howz about meeting some MBers? There are a few of us in the San Francisco area and others in So Cal. Of course many more are spreadout all over the nation and world <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

While we aren't Harley's replacements, I think we do a pretty good job of helping each other out! No promises, just trying our best.

The Harley's do have seminars at different sites, maybe he will do one closer to you later.

take care,
L.

Thanks for everyones imput. I am keeping a lookout for the spring weekend to be announced. But would still love to hear feedback from people who attended this recent weekend in Florida. Especially if they have tips to make the most out of the weekend.