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Saw your post in PlanA/PlanB too.
How long has it been since you found out?

It takes time and a commitment from both of you to turn this around. If you haven't already, read everything on this site. It's full of the best information there is on rebuilding your M and yourself. But it DOES take time.

Do not feel inadequate or worthless over what your H has done. I know this is a hurtful time and having your H boast to friends about his antics is disgusting. You said your H wants to work on M...are you committed?

Best wishes.

Thanks for the advice. He has lied to me so much about his affair....I can't believe or trust anything he says. He lied about who it was, how long it went on, communicating with her after we had reconciled, and the biggee, the extent of his involvement....ie., sex. Told me for months there wasn't any...yea right...never believed him and found out just yesterday from a friend that he had confided in that he had been having sex w/her all along and had the gaul to brag about how good it was....he has been pleading w/me for the past 48 hours to take him back,,,,yea right! He has played me for a fool and I feel the only thing left is my self respect! Once a cheater, always a cheater. But most importantly, once a liar always a liar. I love him but I will not lower myself to his deciept any longer. It wouldn't make any difference what he tells me or promises me...I won't believe him A marriage without trust is not a marriage. As far as the counseling, yes we did both. He has never been honest about any of this and continues to blame his affair on me, or blame others for interceding in my behalf. He will NOT take accountability for his actions and never will. I choose not to wait around for the "2nd" Affair and then decide how to respound to another disaster! Why would I put myself thru that?? Good luck with yours. All of us will choose a path that we can live with, mine is just different from yours.

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Amberlee, I respect your decision of what's right for you. You know your situation better than anyone. Only you can judge whether your H is sincere or just trying to get his a$$ out of the grinder. Unless BOTH of you want your marriage, he's exactly where he needs to be--OUT! Good luck! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />