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Thinking things over...my H's number 1 big-time LB, always, was "talk about THE RELATIONSHIP." He hated being asked how he felt.
I tried pointing out that having an A made this kind of hard to avoid.
Now as things are in limbo, I wonder...how do you move without talking about THE RELATIONSHIP? Even a PBL is talk about THE RELATIONSHIP!
But the good news: OW is probably LBing big-time on that one. She doesn't know where the pot-holes are yet, and she's kind of a bloodsucker, anyway.
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Really, like I said on your other post, that passage you had pretty much sums up what your Plan B letter should be. It isnt really relationship talk. It is you stating facts about yourself, and then quietly backing away. It isnt a discussion or a talk...it is a one-way communication (you to him).
All WSs find the PBl to be an LB at first. They hate it. But it is just like taking bad tasting medicine...when the fever comes down and they begin to feel better...they are damn glad you gave it to them.
In His arms.
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