We are going out tonight (on a Wed..instead of going to church <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> , I can't believe it) because we haven't spent much time together lately at all. and after these last few days things have been awful (see post below)

My question is this:

Do I bring up any thing about relationship stuff, or do I just let it go for tonight? (or let him bring it up, not me?) Just try to have a good time and enjoy ourselfs or do I take advantage of the alone time to talk to him about things that have happened?

And if we should discuss things that happened, how an I convey to him my feelings without LBing?

<small>[ September 24, 2003, 02:07 PM: Message edited by: margue ]</small>

I know its tough but why not just let things take their course. And if possible give yourself a break from the emotional drain of recovery....in other words go have fun!

thanx sdfr,

I think that's what we'll do...of course it'll be up to me.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

We have so little time together I just feel torn between making it something constructive or just saying the heck with it...I don't want to talk about it either.

Maybe I'll really blow his mind, if he brings up the subject I'll just say "I really need a break from all of this, can we not talk about it tonight?" hehehe that would make him nuts... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Glad to see that you guys are going out!

Nah, don't do relationship talk tonite...enjoy each other.

HAVE FUN!!!!

<small>[ September 24, 2003, 02:47 PM: Message edited by: kam6318 ]</small>

Kam,

hey thanx for replying.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Can you believe I talked him into going out tonight????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I can't believe it..Pastor is out of town so they have this really young guy teaching tonight, so I think that's why he agreed..I don't care why I'm just so glad we are..we'll have an 1 and 1/2 to be alone together..alright!!

marie I was going to say don't do anything I wouldn't do.....but what the heck have some fun!!!!!!!!!

There will be quiet moments at home where you can talk about what you need to but for now add some fun back into the mix.....gloom only begets more gloom......

Hmmm I wonder if fooling around begets more fooling around?????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

sdfr,

I sure hope it begats fooling around <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Aint had no fooling around since Saturday morning, probably whats wrong with me... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Yeah, I'm about sick of gloom and doom...I imagine he is too..

I've got to get this plan A thing down right...before I go nuts... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

And the 4 protection things...if I can do that for 6 months and there is no change then I'll try something else....like a sledge hammer or something.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> or plan B...or something else.

but first I gotta do this plan a thing better, or I should say really do it right.