I thought I saw a blurb on here regarding addictions and/or abuse, but now I can't find it. I've been here for a couple of months and now I suspect WS is a love addict. He didn't want to go to MC last night cuz he hasn't gone NC, yet. I went by myself and the therapist suggested WS may be addicted to romantic love.

The therapist also said that in recovery for alcoholics, the probability of success increases if the person has a job and a partner. I figure he was saying that WS would have a better chance in this recovery if I stayed with him.

I've been doing a decent Plan A. Sometimes an angry outburst escapes, but lately, I just cry and let WS know when I'm hurt. I've been trying to fulfill ENs and asking for mine as well. I don't accuse, blame, or shoot back with a snide remark.

But WS cannot decide between our M and the OW, so I figured I would need to start preparing for Plan B. However, now this addiction throws a wrench into my plans.

What should I be doing? Do MB principles still apply? Do I need to find some kind of Al-Anon group?

My H is in kind of the same situation.

Why would MB principles NOT apply? What in them could be different?

Whether or not H is "addicted," he still has to make decisions, and eventually you will have to protect yourself from his romantic adventures.

I think it will complicate recovery (I'm in Plan B), but much of the dynamics are the same.

Others please correct me if I am off on this!

I believe that Willard Harley's original thesis is that the only way to "treat" infidelity is to assume that it IS an addiction. And just like an addiction, the only way you get better is to stop using.

I don't currently have references, but I know that I've read about how his original practice was addiction treatment and he learned the similarities in the course of doing that.

In Recovery there are several posts on addiction.