Princess,
Thank you for your response as well as sharing your story with me. I didn't expect to get a response from a FWS, that was actually quite helpful. Your story does sound much like mine. I, too, am pregnant with our 2nd, due Nov. 2, and believe me, the stress of this whole ordeal really sucked!!!

Even though this pg. was planned, H approached me at 10wks and told me about our "marital problems." O.K., a little shocked, but didn't sound like anything that couldn't be repaired. (basically his EN's weren't being met...), but through all of this, I've learned it was just an excuse for him to pursue EA with OP (she's so young and immature, I can't refer to her as a woman).

D-day was May 30, of this year, and things just spiraled from there. H came up with every excuse under the sun, for his behavior. I warned him that the more time he spent with her, the closer they would grow, and the farther he and I would split. But, I also warned him that if he had any intention of leaving me at all, to please do it now, and not wait until the baby came, because I needed to prepare myself to be a single parent BEFORE the baby arrived. He just swore up and down that he didn't really know what it was he felt for this person, and that he didn't know what he wanted to do.

He spent the next 4 months literally "juggling" the two of us. He drove himself absolutely crazy, worrying about where each of us were, and, feeling the addictive "need" to be with her...

Through this all, as difficult as it was for me, I implemented my own version of Plan A (this was before I found MB, so, I referred to it as "plan Stand by your Man." Some people thought I was crazy, but others, like my MIL, understood where I was coming from, because I knew that my husband was not himself, and that if I was patient enough, he would eventually "see the light." I basically knew that our 4.5 year marriage was worth the fight.

I know in my heart that my H and I can be a success story like you. Thank you for the guidance, and I will heed your advice.

Mother of Pearl

Me- BS 31
H-WS 29 ( on the edge of "30," if that means ANYTHING)
Met Oct 95
Married Mar 99
D day May 30 03
EA/PA until Oct 02 03-called off by H
Looking forward to recovery...