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#1095290 10/19/03 10:43 PM
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Well, it's been 2 years since the fire that destroyed the roof and attic of our historic home.

We're still rebuilding, and fighting the insurance company, so we expect 2 be at it another 2 years from now! But the place is getting a new paint job and the scaffolding will get taken down in a week or so, so at least the outside is looking pretty nice.

As for anniversaries: This one is a lot bigger a deal for me now than D-day 1 year was in January. And our M was still in a mess at that point. It's not "perfect" by any means yet, and we've never gotten a NC agreement, but we're doing pretty well.

This am, we were watching CBS Sunday morning. I love that show, of all that's available on commercial TV, because they have "feelgood" news and humor, and it's intelligent - not like those weekly morning news programs where you feel like you need 2 check your brain at the door in order 2 relate. Anyway, afterwards, I said 2 my W, "ILY" and she looked me straight in the eye and said "ILY, 2". That meant more than the kinds of ILY's you feel like you get in passing, because you say them in passing, while something else is going on. You do it just in case you don't get a response, because if you don't, at least you're doing something 2 take your mind off it. I think you all know what I mean, so you know why I give this ILY 2 more significance than most. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So, life is pretty good overall. I do my best when I don't try so hard 2 control the fu2re. Still, I miss some of the MBers I was sharing with so frequently a year and a half ago.

Conan, how are you doing?
Baffled, where ya been?
Sweden, are you in the US now? Did your W and kids come with you?
Spacecase? Well, I know how 2 get hold of you!

JL, will you be in SanFran in December? I'm going 2 try 2 go this year.

Anyway, that's stuff for the day! The big deal 2yr anniversary since the fire here, and it's just not that big a deal! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Take care, all!
-ol' 2long

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*golf clap for 2long and missus 2long*

btw, fishing with john is an awesome show!

<small>[ October 20, 2003, 12:29 AM: Message edited by: whippit ]</small>

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whippit:

I hear tell it's available on DVD now! I saw about 5 of them. Dry hilarity! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

From the episode with Dennis Hopper:

Narrator (who sounds like he narrated Nova), as camera pans from boat captain's face down to his bare feet:
"{boat captain's name} has wooden legs, but real feet"

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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2L,

You bet. I will be talking about our favorite heavenly body...no not your W. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> You should be getting close to being grounded at that point shouldn't you, or is it dusted??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Let's make a point to get together, sip one or two or...

As I read your post, all I could think of is man time flies.

Must go, but keep in touch about Dec.

JL

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JL:

You got it!

I think I'm working over New Years! ...but I have 2 make sure 2 set the 27th aside for time off. It'll be our 28th anniversary!

I'll keep you posted as I figure out more about my schedule for Dec.

-2long

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Hey there 'ol 2long. Glad to hear that this 2 year anniversary is more of a big deal than the last d-day anniversary. You sure are one tough guy who knows how to perservere, in your marriage and in your fire damaged home! So many folks would've left their wife and sold the house by now. lol

BTW, what is up with this "Fishing with John" song in your sig line? It sort of depresses me, because I no longer get to go fishing (one of my favorite past-times) with John (my STBXH).

Jen

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2L,

I too love CBS Sunday Morning! I've been watching it for 20 plus years. Fortunately it survived the death of Charles Kuralt (spl?). And his affair scandal didn't seem to hurt the show either.

It's the best show on TV and seems to give a balanced view of any story. Did you see the one segment about the guy who has revitalized BMW?

Congratulations for getting past the 2 year anniversay of your fire. How soon before you're back in? CSue

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Jen Brown Said:
So many folks would've left their wife and sold the house by now. lol

In some contries you could sell your wife, and leave the home. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

Ok, back to serious stuff. You have been doing this so long now, you could even change your name to 3long. ( tried to get serious, but it didn't work yet.)

I just got back from another trip, glad to see you are still alive and posting. It's so nice when all your good work (work on the marriage) gets rewarded, and here's to the rewards being both better and more frequent.

SS

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Hi 2long,
Remember me? I don't come here very often, but when I do, I look to see if you've posted. to see how you're doing.
Things are going pretty well for me (I'm the WS, I had an EA). I haven't been in touch with the OM since May...and before that it had been a little over a year. It's been hard, but well worth it. I'm glad that you've hung in there with your wife, I know it was hard (and maybe still is) but I bet she thanks her lucky stars that you didn't boot her out or push her so hard that she'd make the wrong decision.
Does she still work or have to be in touch with rat meat?
Were you out of work? I can't remember, if so, are you back doing what you want to be doing?
Anyway, I really just wanted to say hi.
Ashirley

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Jen:

Sorry about the trigger!! It wasn't meant 2 be one! But, if you get IFC, do check out an episode of "Fishing with John!" They're hilarious.

At the end of the episode with Willem DeFoe, where they went ice fishing but never caught anything, one of them staggers and falls down, and then the other collapses. The narrator simply said something like "Sadly, on the 11th day, John Lurie and Willem DeFoe died." Then came the theme song and credits. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

SS: Hm... maybe I should change from 2long 2 3 long on my 2nd d-day anniversary... Then, in subsequent years, I could become 4long, 5long... ...nlong!

Trouble is, it would be hard 2 find ways 2 use "3" in words and sentences, 4 would be a cinch (and I sometimes do use it on the 4ums!), 5 might be hard, and double-digits might be impossible!

CSue: Yeah, it's a great show. Trouble is, with all the "sports news" (an oxymoron), they put it on at odd times out here (6am these days!), and I don't always wake up in time. I missed the BMW spot! My W and I have been living in the downstairs bedroom for some months now. The rest of the house is unfinished, though. Going 2 take a long time 2 put it back 2gether, 2.
Ashirley! Of course I remember you! I am so glad 2 hear that things are going better for you! I'm also glad that you were able 2 do it "your way" succesfully! I believe that I need 2 let my W do it "her way" as well. It's harder 2 be patient with only one of us getting any "coaching", but I can't make her do what she isn't comfortable with. But "her way" is working, however slowly (by my stopwatch, that is!).

No, my W is no longer working with RM. She quit the job he was subcontracting 2 because her arrogant super was "taking control" without knowing how 2, and RM wasn't delivering his results as promised. When I told her I believed he was holding out on her for what he perceived she'd "done 2 his M", she didn't disagree, though she still hasn't fully faced the consequences in that area. Knowing how hard it has been for ME 2 get my work done with all this on my mind, it doesn't surprise me that he can't get things done, because he's getting a DV over the A. He's supposed 2 finish his PhD this month or lose all his credits. I would not bet he'll finish, but then, I wasn't impressed with the viability of his dissertation topic. ...but then, I might be biased! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

My W saw him in late August when whe had 2 visit his workplace for another job that she tried for about a month before deciding she just needed 2 take time off for a while. In her words, "he didn't look like he was doing very well". We also talked a LOT on the phone when she was away for that job. Probably the deepest R talks we've ever had. Neither one of them "wants another relationship" with the other, and at least he doesn't seem 2 want 2 talk 2 her anymore. I don't know if she feels the same way or not. Part of the process.

I've never been out of work during this process, though my productivity sure suffered for a while. Things are ramping up like crazy right now for a "big event" coming in less than 3 months. And this is good. I'm having fun keeping busy. At work and on the house!

♥2long

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