TMCM-

I realize that its not a text book plan b in Harley's literal sense.

However, I guess folks can call no contact, plan b, no contact, not speaking...what ever.

Can't plan b be used for anything other than seperating a Wayward from their lover...yes
I beleive so.

But since you brought it up what is the difference in plan b and no contact

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by rlyhurtin:
TMCM-

I realize that its not a text book plan b in Harley's literal sense.

However, I guess folks can call no contact, plan b, no contact, not speaking...what ever.

Can't plan b be used for anything other than seperating a Wayward from their lover...yes
I beleive so.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No plan B has some very specific requirements before it should be implemented:

1. Plan B is the last resort strategy to save the marriage when the WS cannot chose between the BS and the OP. - Is this your situation?

2. Plan B must follow Plan A which is a strategy to negotiate with the wayward spouse to totally separate from the lover without angry outbursts, disrespect, and demands. - Is this your situation?

3. Plan B requires a plan B letter to the WS. - Did you give your XWW a plan B letter?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But since you brought it up what is the difference in plan b and no contact.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Plan B is the last resort strategy to save your marriage because you want her back but you are no longer married, so how can you save that which has already been lost?. Simple no contact implies that you do NOT want her back.

But the bigger question that begs to be asked is: Do YOU want to reconcile with your XW?

<small>[ October 20, 2003, 01:37 PM: Message edited by: T00MuchCoffeeMan ]</small>

You should be an MB counseller! Thank you.

As far as did I plan A...Yes for 2 years before I even knew what it was. Instictive I guess.

Did I send a plan b letter, yes but plan b crumbled as you know

I guess I know what plan b is from your definition. I just didn't do it very well, schucks lets call a spaid a spaid...I sucked at plan b.

I suck at no contact too (although my last stint was a personal best)

My lord I made out with the woman yesterday and am trying to play it cool now. I am sure it meant more to me than it did her

Don't beat yourself up man. Just because there is a legal piece of paper saying that you two are divorced, it doesn't mean that your feelings for her are divorced as well. Just keep in mind that you ARE going to fall a couple of times, but eventually you'll be strong enough that no matter how much she comes on to you, you will be able to resist being tempted by her.