Has any one seen this site, philanderes.com It is a web site designed to help anyone who wants to have an Affair. I found this while reading the news online. Is it me or is the whole world going crazy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> ? When I saw this at first I though it was a bad joke, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> but its not. They claim to have over 2,000 members already. Here is the full article.
CHEATING FOR DUMMIES
October 24, 2003
Call it "Cheating 101." A shocking Web site teaches husbands and wives how to have an affair -- and get away with it!
Surprisingly, the site's owner says that more than HALF of its subscribers are women, who are seeking partners and advice on how to cheat without getting caught.
But an expert on marriage and the family blasted the site, charging it could destroy marriages and families.
"This is a way to help people violate their marriage vows and dishonor their spouse," declared Glenn Stanton, Focus on the Family's senior analyst for marriage and sexuality.
"This is never right."
The site's owner, who goes by the alias of Doug Mitchell, said that after five years of marriage and two children, boredom had set in. He began having an affair and sought advice on dealing with the guilt -- and the pitfalls of cheating.
"Therapy didn't work. Since my wife and I share the same friends, I couldn't turn to any of them for advice. I turned to the Internet and didn't find any answers, so I started a Web site and asked for input.
"People started sending me e-mails on their feelings and ways to hide affairs.
"My wife is a wonderful woman. I love her and our two kids. I am the guy next door and we are the typical happy couple. If my wife caught me, it would be devastating."
The Web site,
www.philanderers.com, has about 2,000 members in its active database and gets about 80,000 "hits" per day, according to Mitchell.
Visitors to the site can click on personal ads to find a willing pair of arms in their local community, visit a chat room, participate in a forum, read informative articles on preparing for an affair and get advice on what to do if caught.
They can also find instruction on how to keep their identity secret for short-term affairs, and tips about behaviors that can alert a spouse that his or her partner might be having an affair.
"Never, ever conduct an affair in one's own home," cautions Mitchell, who also advises always using condoms, noting on the site: "It is impossible to explain to your spouse where you picked up that disease without telling them everything."
But Stanton, author of "Why Marriage Matters: Reasons to Believe in Marriage in Postmodern Society," takes a dim view of the extramarital relations espoused on the site.
"A marriage vow is the most sacred of human trusts. This Web site tramples that.
"A sexual relationship is much more than flesh on flesh or physical release. It is much deeper. It encompasses the whole person and that's exactly why it should be confined to the safe, protective harbor of marriage.
"When people cheat on their spouses, it destroys relationships. It destroys trust.
"And research consistently shows that faithfully married people are happier than people in any other category of relationships."
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I guess when they say you can find anything on the web they really mean it. ellyn
