Today while at Borders looking for books on buidling back trust I went to the psych section and did not stay in the relationship section...

There I found this book:
Kosher Adultery
by Shmuel Boteach
Hardcover: 336 pages ; Dimensions (in inches): 1.25 x 8.72 x 5.84
Publisher: Adams Media Corporation; (September 2002)
ISBN: 1580627927

here's more information:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Editorial Reviews
About the Author
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, author of the international bestsellers Kosher Sex and Dating Secrets of the Ten Commandments, is host of "Dear Shmuley," a nationally syndicated daily radio show on the Talk America Radio Network. For eleven years, he served as Rabbi to the students of Oxford University, where he founded the L’Chaim Society, which became the second largest student organization in Oxford’s history. His book Why Can’t I Fall in Love was a finalist for the Books for a Better Life Award, and his latest work, Judaism for Everyone, was published to critical acclaim. A winner of the highly prestigious London Times Preacher of the Year Award, Rabbi Shmuley has debated human relationship issues with such figures as Larry Flynt, Helen Gurley Brown, Elizabeth Wurtzel, the Rules Girls, Deepak Chopra, and Jerry Falwell. Rabbi Shmuley lives in New Jersey with his Australian wife Debbie and their seven young children.

Book Description
How can adultery-the worst of all marital sins-be considered "kosher"? As internationally bestselling author Rabbi Shmuley Boteach explains, what often leads to infidelity is too much trust and complacency, which causes routine, boredom, and waning attraction. You and your spouse must look to the principles of adultery-forbiddenness, danger, excitement, tension, and voyeurism-to achieve the outer limits of erotic excitement, passion, and pleasure in your own marriage.

In this revolutionary new book, Rabbi Shmuley explains how you can rekindle the fiery attraction and endless lust that existed before you and your spouse became husband and wife: Kosher Adultery. Husbands must turn their wives into mistresses; wives must turn their husbands into lovers. Through the groundbreaking "Ten Commandments of Kosher Adultery," wives become their husbands’ private WebCam girls, while husbands have sinful affairs with their wives, who are completely unaware of the real identity of their mysterious admirers. Rabbi Shmuley shows you how to:

-Create erotic desire in the mind, the source of all lust and attraction

-Look at your spouse with the eyes of a prowling suitor

-Bring the danger of an affair into your marriage without being unfaithful

-Turn attraction and fantasies about strangers into an electric night of passion

-Bring novelty into marriage by viewing your spouse through the eyes of an unsuspecting stranger

-Have a secret e-mail affair with your spouse without anyone discovering your identity

-Introduce erotic voyeurism into your marriage

-Increase desire and sinfulness through the use of erotic obstacles and barriers

Continuing where Rabbi Shmuley’s classic Kosher Sex leaves off, this highly controversial and electric work challenges all past and contemporary scholarship about the marital bed, ensuring that it will be the most hotly debated and discussed book of the next decade.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Okay I'm not Jewish and I found this book shocking and could only read one or two paragraphs and just couldn't go on.

Anyone read this book?

way2

<small>[ October 25, 2003, 11:08 PM: Message edited by: way2 ]</small>

Jewish-leaning here. Sounds like a handguide to roleplaying, but I really, really dislike the title and some of those 'tips'...

I'm not sure is he is Orthodox, though. Don;t know much about him. I think if I saw this, i'd be just as shocked.

Dear Way 2,

Could you spell out some more tips from the book? Is it worth it to buy the book, or have you encapsulated all its ideas in your original post?

I have posted some of these ideas to wives who are dissatisfied with their husbands, but many wives here seem to find these ideas outside thier comfort zone. Perhaps this book would be good to have around for a reluctant wife. My wife goes through cycles of being an overly moralistic prude. Seems self-defeating to me.

Good Post,

Quipper
Married 28 years, raised 2 challenging kids, still strugging

look at post below vvvvv <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ October 29, 2003, 12:14 PM: Message edited by: way2 ]</small>

Quipper and all,

this is being discussed in Recovery -- there are actually people there who've read the book

Kosher Adultery discussed in Recovery

<small>[ October 29, 2003, 12:15 PM: Message edited by: way2 ]</small>

OK, so the book is shocking. It grabs attention with its title (sadly - a reflection on society there). So what does that achieve - could it be revenue for the Author and Publisher?
I think maybe it is trying to create exitement in marriage through fantasy but anyone who has been involved in an A will instantly realise that infidelity is one of the cruellest practices in the world. It is in no way exiting.