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FWH do you resent your BW?
#1097111 11/04/03 11:37 AM
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Only FWH please answer this post and vote in the poll.

Do you resent your BW for making you give up OW? And if so how long did that resentment last?

It's a theme I saw on the TOW board and I'd like to get your opinions. I made this a poll so that any tows reading this can't say that you only responded xx way because BW is reading MB.

You may of course post responses too.

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Re: FWH do you resent your BW?
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The resentment you speak of could only occur if the WS refuses to take responsibility for their actions. This is how a child responds to a parent...a bad dynamic between spouses.

My wife did not "make" me have affair. By the same token, she did not have the power to "make" me stop. I was my decision. So how could I resent her for it?

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Re: FWH do you resent your BW?
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Hi Way2,

Ditto what LO said. Wife didn't get me into it; she didn't make me stop it. I chose both times, of my own accord.

If there's any resentment in my case, it's against OW, who had, I believe, a hidden agenda for a long time prior to our A.

By the way...Why do you spend time at TOW? Don't we make you angry enough, or raise your BP enough over here? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> We can try harder to meet those EN's if they're being neglected!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Lovingly,

Oscar

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Re: FWH do you resent your BW?
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from OtC </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> By the way...Why do you spend time at TOW? Don't we make you angry enough, or raise your BP enough over here? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> We can try harder to meet those EN's if they're being neglected!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROTFLOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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