After 23 years of marriage, my husband told me on 9/17/03 that he had a six year affair with a divorced coworker. The affair started on 8/31/97 and ended on 9/17/03. The OW ended the affair. He told me that he loved me and wanted to work on the marriage. After the initial shock, I thought I was willing to try to work things out. On 10/21/03, he admitted another affair that happened in 1993 with a married coworker. The OW ended this affair. I also found out that he was secretly calling another woman before he told me about his affair on 9/17/03. I only discovered this from our past cell phone records. As much as I try, I have not been able to control my anger. He has continued to lie about these affairs since they were revealed to me and I am getting so tired. Just thinking of all the lies he told me to maintain these relationships for the past ten years makes me angry. He is seeing a counselor -- I am not. He acts likes nothing has happened, going about his day as before and never misses a minute of sleep. I, on the other hand, can't sleep or eat. The only time we talk about rebuilding the marriage is when I bring it up and ask him to read materials I have printed from the marriagebuilders website. When I ask him questions about the As, he get angry and then when I get angry, he walks out of the house. HOW DO YOU CONTROL THE ANGER?