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Should copy of Plan B letter go to OM
#1098594 11/12/03 11:11 PM
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Going to give plan B letter tonight to WW.

I know in the story in SAA a copy went to the OM but what do you all think. Is this a must. Should this occur in certain instances or every instance.

Need to know opinions right away as want to mail copy to OM tonight after I deliver WW hers.

Thanks DD
Re: Should copy of Plan B letter go to OM
#1098595 11/12/03 11:48 PM
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DD,

I am fairly new, but yes, that is what I was told
by Steve Harley himself. You give same exact letter as to WW, but at bottom, you write a short, brief paragraph to OM expressing your plan to stick by WW and wait for her and fight for her and your love for her.

Let me know what happens. Good luck.

FF
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Yes, it should go to the affair partner.
Re: Should copy of Plan B letter go to OM
#1098597 11/14/03 01:42 AM
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FF & JJ

Did as you wished. Knew that was the way I was to go but just needed a push to send him letter also. Did write short note to him stating I was sticking by her as long as it took. Also told him even half a man would end relationship with WW and try to fix damage to his own BW and children.

Got e-mail from WW this morning. She's pissed making demands, insists we get together to talk about her getting own place. Wait til she checks the savings acct and finds it empty.

Rollercoaster ride coming up for me. Going to ISgirl Plan B thread for help and support now.

Thank you for input.

God bless you all.

DD
Re: Should copy of Plan B letter go to OM
#1098598 11/13/03 02:01 PM
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It's very important to hold your ground now. Don't allow emotions to override logic and commom sense. You have done the right things and the fallout will start. Be strong and know that we are all with you. God bless!

John 16:33.

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