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Chaotic Comments ....... how to identify and avoid them
#1098890 11/15/03 02:07 AM
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Chaotic Comments ....... how to identify and avoid them.

Input is welcomed.

A chaotic comment is one designed to confuse, mislead and manipulate.

The commenter has a hidden agenda and looking for a victim.

Hit and run chaotic comments is a common techique.

WS examples: I love you but I don't love you. It's your fault I married you. You pushed me to have the A.

Identify them by recognizing the confused look or statements. Don't look to make it logical. The sooner you recognize it and remove yourself from participating the sooner it will die.

Howz that for starters. Any other comments? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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#1098891 11/15/03 09:25 AM
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Chaotic comments....interesting! Can you come up with more examples? Would this be one? "It's your fault I'm so angry!"
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"You're too capable and good at things, so I can't stay with you."

I'm pretty sure that would be one. Also,

"I don't do anything because you can do everything better."

And "I have to stay with you to do what I want to do! I don't want to do that!"
Re: Chaotic Comments ....... how to identify and avoid them
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A couple of gems I will alway treasure:

"I will only do things if you don't ask me to do them"

"You do not get to decide whether you will or will not communicate with me"

What's a girl to do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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