Hi. I am new here, but love this site. I need some major advice. I was married at 22, and my husband was abusive. I put up with it for 3 years and finally got the courage to file for divorce. At the time, we had a 1 year old son. About 3 years later, I met and married my current husband. He is romantic, caring, sweet, a wonderful father, everything.We have been married for 2 years. As wonderful as he is, we have had our share of problems. He would not keep a job, and when he did have a job, it was commision only, and would go for months without a pay check. While I was working full time supporting our family. A year ago I had a child with him. I found out about a loan that he had for school from about 8 yrs ago that he has paid nothing on. 41,000.00 is what he owes...and I knew nothing about it, until I opened a piece of mail addressed to him, stating that they were going to start ganishing his wages. There was also another incident, involving a 13 yr old girl down the street. I saw them kissing. Of course he says she kissed him, and I do believe him, because I know how she is...however, I gave him opportunity after opportunity to tell me what happend, and he never did, until I flat out ask, "Why did you kiss her?" That is when he said he didn't, and that she tried to kiss him, and he stopped her...After all of this, I asked him to leave. Since this time, one of my neighbors and i have become very, very close. We were always friends, but now we both feel much stronger than we did. I honestly think I love this guy. My husband has been gone for 4 months now. I don't miss him. I have my moments, but for the most part I don't. So, I don't have a clue what to do...I really "think" I want to be with this OM, however I also keep thinking about what a great father my husband is, and how caring he is, and how sweet and romantic he is...but I just don't think I love him like I should. Something else, which may be stupid, but is I don't want to be a single mother again, but now with 2 kids by 2 different men. What should I be doing to help me in making this difficult desicion? I try to stay away from this OM, but am just not strong enough to do it. HELP!!
